Have you discovered that your partner has been cheating? Do you hope nonetheless for a reconciliation? Are you wondering if surviving infidelity without counseling is possible?
The betrayal of a loved one can be devastating but it doesn’t have to be the end of a relationship or the death of your happy life.
There are ways to deal with it and survive it without counseling but it will take a lot of presence of mind, life skills and determination.
Let me walk you through how surviving infidelity without counseling is possible.
#1 – Is the other person completely out of the picture.
A very important piece of surviving infidelity and keeping your relationship intact is whether or not the other person is completely out of the picture.
Working on a marriage when the other person is still around is literally impossible. Your partner and their lover are connected in a deep way. If you have been told that they are ‘now just friends’ or they don’t ‘see’ each other anymore but still talk, then that person is NOT out of the picture.
If the other person isn’t out of the picture you and your partner will fail in any attempts to regain loving feelings about each other because you will always be suspicious and feel less loved and your partner will stay emotionally connected to the person who was their lover.
So, the first step in all of this is ensuring the other person is gone. Only once that is the case can you proceed to the next steps.
#2 – Do you genuinely want it to work?
Your partner has done the unimaginable – they have fooled around on you. They have betrayed the commitment you have made to each other. They have broken your heart.
So, let me ask you this – do you still want to be in a relationship with this person?
This is a key part of surviving infidelity without counseling. If you aren’t determined to make this work, if every fiber of your being knows that, if possible, you would like to get your relationship back, then any efforts to save it will be futile.
Being determined doesn’t guarantee success but, without out it, you are doomed to failure.
#3 – Can you still communicate with each other?
If you and your partner are still able to communicate with each other then surviving infidelity without counseling is definitely possible.
Communication is the most important tool for fixing what is broken. You will need to communicate how you are feeling and your partner will need to communicate how they got to the place where infidelity was even an option.
You will need to work together to identify issues in your relationship and make a concrete plan to work on those issues together. You will need to understand each other’s wants and needs and be committed to making change.
The only way to do that effectively is by being able to communicate clearly with each other – to speak and listen and make sure each other are heard and understood.
