How To Know If Someone Is Thinking About You (and maybe even falling in love with you)

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How do you know when someone is thinking about you?
And does this means they like you?
And possibly even love you?

Knowing if someone is thinking about you is important because as I went through in my previous article How To Make Someone Think Of You if someone is thinking about you a lot, it is the first step on the road to them falling in love with you.

After all, when you love someone they will be constantly on your mind and they will be all you will be able to think about throughout the day. In this article, I’m going to go through ways to determine if the particular person you like is thinking of you.

7 Signs Someone Is Thinking About You

1. Subconscious Lingering Smile:

 Do you know the first thing that you do when you see one of your friends whom you haven’t seen in a while? You smile at them and that smile will stay on your face for about 10 seconds or more. Your subconscious gives away the fact that you like this person. The same goes for someone who barely knows you but who have been thinking about you. When they meet you, it will be the same for them as seeing an old friend they really like and so they will smile which will linger for 10 seconds or more. If their subconscious likes you, it will give itself away in a lingering smile like this.

2. Constant Smile: 

When someone likes you, they will not converse with you in a regular neutral manner but will have a smile on their face as they talk. They have been thinking about you for a while and now they get to talk with you in person. This will make them feel happy inside, and this internal feeling will be manifested with an external smile that stays throughout your conversation together. Conversely, if the person talks with you in a regular neutral tone without smiling, it is a strong indicator they have not been thinking about you.

3. Subconscious Desire To Be Close: 

People think it is fate or destiny that causes a person to fall in love. In reality, it is actually the person’s subconscious mind that has caused them to fall in love because it has determined that this specific person can satisfy unmet needs in the persons life and so would be good for them. The subconscious then looks for ways to brings this person into their life. The way it does this is to make them fall in love with the person. The subconscious’ desire to draw this person into their life can also manifest in the person being drawn physically to the person they like. So if the particular person you like is often in your company or comes up to you a lot, it is a good sign they are thinking about you and his subconscious mind is drawing him close to you. They will also tend to stand in close to you rather than at a distance.

4. Subconscious Line Of Sight: 

When someone is thinking about you, they will have a subconscious desire to keep you in their line of sight. From the previous point, we see that the subconscious is working away in the background and has made a determination they want to bring this person into the person’s life. The person’s subconscious will be interested to see you, what you’re doing, and who you’re talking to etc. Even if the person doesn’t directly look at you (in case you might see them looking at you), they will be subconsciously inclined to want to keep you in their line of sight.

5. Subconscious Feet And Leg Direction: 

Our feet always naturally point in the direction we are walking to. Over time this has set up a subconscious link between our intentions (what we want and where we want to go) and where we point our feet. If you like someone and are sitting at a table with them and a group of friends, it will feel unnatural to fold your legs and point them and your feet away from the person you like. It will set up cognitive dissonance in your mind between your desires (the person sitting at the table) and your intentions (wanting to be with that person). As a result, your legs and feet will naturally point towards the person even if you are not consciously aware of it. If the person you like has their legs and feet pointing in your direction, it’s a strong sign they like you and have been thinking of you.

6. Taking An Interest In Your Friends: 

You will know that a person has been thinking about you if when they talk to you, they will also make an effort to talk with your friends. A person’s friends have a big influence in a person’s life and so they will have a subconscious interest in who you hang out with and in getting your friends to like them. The way to know they like you and not your friends is if they spend more time talking to you than your friends and if you are the last person they speak within the group before they leave.

7. Approaching You For No Real Reason: 

As outlined previously, when a person’s subconscious has determined that you would be a good person to have in their life, their subconscious will look for ways to bring you into their life and bring the person close to you. This can get manifested in the person wanting to approach you even if they have no real reason to. Their subconscious is over-riding their reasoning and making them approach you like this without having any obvious reason for doing so. Approaches like this are a sure sign that they have been thinking about you.

Taking Things To The Next Step

When someone is thinking about you, it is a good sign they have begun to become emotionally attached to you and they may even have already begun to fall for you. But the problem is they may not fully know you yet. And it could be that when they get to know you, they might realize you are not as good a match for them as they had thought. And so they lose interest.

In my book “THE LOVEMAP CODE: How To Make Someone Fall In Love With You Using Psychology” I show how to uncover the criteria another person’s subconscious mind is looking for in a person as a future life partner. If the person gets to know you and their subconscious then sees that you violate one of their criteria, it will begin to turn them off you even though they had initially been thinking about you and coming up to you etc as outlined in this article.

In the book, I show how to uncover what is going on in the person’s subconscious mind so that you do not violate their criteria. This will ensure that you do not scupper the good position you are in right now with the person already thinking about you.


By John Alex Clark – Relationship & Life Coach
For more information on relationship advice, check out John Alex Clarks website “RelationshipPsychology.com”.

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