To Boost Your Confidence, Do These 3 Small Nudges

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We all need small nudges from time to time to keep ourselves going. These small nudges cultivate positive changes in behavior and boost your confidence.

We all know, of course, that confidence is about feeling good in our own skin. It is about knowing ourselves well and learning to live with this person. So far, so good. This post explains 3 small nudges to boost your confidence.

A while ago, I came across the wonderful book by Dr. Richard Thaler — a professor of economics and behavioral science at the University of Chicago, called “Nudge: Improving decisions on Health, Wealth and Happiness.”

Nudges are small prompts that can lead to huge changes in behavior. And the beauty of the theory is that it can be applied to almost every situation that needs a better ending.

Such as: making people pay their taxes on time, enlisting more organ donors, convert to using renewable energy for electricity. It’s such a powerful tool that both the British Prime Minister David Cameron and the US President Barak Obama used it to achieve certain domestic policy goals.

Related: 23 Beautiful Ways Confidence Transforms You and Your Life

And, by the way, in 2017, Prof. Thaler won the Nobel Prize for Economics for his Nudge Theory.

Nudges do work. And we can use them to change the things we want to improve in our personal lives too. For instance, if you lack the motivation to go to the gym, find an accountability buddy.

Want to eat healthier? — Start bringing your own food to work. Want to help the planet? — Make it a default option to bike or take the bus to work instead of driving. Want to be more confident? — Set daily encouraging prompts on your phone to make yourself feel better (I actually do this, along with the reminders to smile, learn something new, talk to someone).

Try it. nudges will boost your confidence and change your life.

There are many, many ways we can improve our outcomes by using nudges. And best part — we don’t have to alter the status quo in a dramatic way. No behavioural shocks. Small tweaks here and there can make all the difference.

Sounds great, right?

I write and research about confidence quite a lot, so I became really interested in testing how (and if) the Nudge theory can work to enhance self-esteem and self-belief.

Find How Nudges Can Boost Your Confidence.

Few trials and errors down the road, here are my three small confidence-boosting “nudges, ” which I found to be real confidence-boosters if used daily.

1. Pay attention to how you look and present yourself

Confidence is a positive affair with your self-image.

It’s barely a secret that first impressions matter. How you carry yourself matters. How you come across, the image you want to project, matters. If you go to a business meeting where you make acquaintances with new people, for instance, and wear casual clothes, you may have a challenging time building trust and respect (unless, of course, you are in Silicon Valley).

The best part, though–you don’t have to break the bank to buy expensive clothes or do plastic surgery, or use lots of makeup. It’s all about looking composed, carrying yourself with respect.

The nudge: Think about what you’ll wear in advance, imagine how the clothes will make you feel. If you want to be confident, buy and wear what amplifies your sense of self-assurance.

And never underestimate the mental shortcuts and the biases people resort to. Use them in your favor.

Related: How To Be Pretty: 25 Ways To Look More Attractive, Naturally

2. Devote time to yourself and do what makes you happy

Confidence is about self-fulfillment.

We are all so busy with our lives–errands, chores, work, family–these take up most of our time. We often neglect to take care of the most important person in our universe–ourselves. We may have even forgotten how to make ourselves happy.

And this is not good for confidence.

Every day, I devote my lunch hour to myself. I don’t take phone calls, don’t check my email and social media. I spend time with myself. Do things that make me and only me happy–go to the gym, take a walk, go to my favorite spot for lunch. It makes me feel good–doing something for myself that is mine only.

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How Small Nudges Can Boost Your Confidence

The nudge: Don’t be ashamed to be a bit selfish. Set a me-time reminder every day. Go do your nails. Go for a walk. Indulge in some ice-cream. Introduce some sunshine back in your life.

Being there for others is important, of course, but don’t forget that you are also the person who knows you best and can find the best ways to make yourself feel good.

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Evelyn Marinof

Evelyn Marinoff is a writer. She researches and writes about the psychology behind confidence, happiness and well-being. You can find her pieces in Thrive Global; The Huffington Post; TinyBuddha; Addicted2Success; Pick The Brain; The Quiet Revolution. Having struggled herself for years, Evelyn likes helping others to enhance their self-esteem and to learn self-acceptance. Evelyn is a Canadian, currently living in Dublin, Ireland, with her husband and son. You can find her on Twitter or on Facebook.View Author posts