Apaths – I can’t be bothered to be concerned about abuse. Who cares. Boring. I know people who say they are being abused. I ignore it. Not my problem, is it? And I like that person they said was an abuser.
Egocentrics – Abuse doesn’t affect me, so why should I care? They should deal with their own problems behind closed doors and not bother others. Now can we get back to my problems.
Narcissists – I think it’s fine to use people, treat people badly, then lie, deny, project, if you need to. That’s life. Everyone does it. Don’t criticise me, or I will have a tantrum and deny it all. And if all else fails, I’ll act the victim, whilst starting a vindictive smear campaign.
Sociopaths – I do plan exploiting and hurting others, because I think it’s funny to watch people get upset. It’s not my problem they are weak. And I’ll do it again. It’s fun and I enjoy it. You don’t agree, I don’t care. And if pushed into a corner, I too may act the victim.
Psychopaths – I hurt others because they are there to be used and abused and I feel nothing about how they feel. I will do what I want to get what I want, abuse who I want, hurt them as much as I want and no-one will ever stop me. Don’t even try, or you will be next.
How do I know this is how they think?
Because I have been abused by them all.
And as a result of decades of abuse by all these highly abusive people, I have a lot of insight into the way their minds work.
Commonalities within each of these – are a complete lack of empathy, conscience, remorse, guilt, shame, or regard for human suffering. And a complete sense of entitlement and deep selfishness.
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Probably the most true, real, felt and incredible explanation to abuse in so many areas. The one thing I will say though is that I firmly believe a person carries characteristics of all above mentioned in one. A word to describe such a demeaning person?????
Excellent Piece xx
And may I add. The most POWERFUL ANSWER TO HOW YOU KNOW I have ever heard
I was married to a sociopath . . . and in 3 years nothing of the old me was left behind.
I am so sorry you endured a sociopath. It is highly traumatising being abused by them. Lots of self care and self compassion are needed <3
Lilly Hope Lucario I am most greatful to those who have voiced and written about this type of personality. Without it I would have remained an empty shell. Thank you for your words.
I am glad if my articles and work, help anyone, in any way. Lilly <3
Kimberly Novitch Ventura
Lilly Hope Lucario , please, what do you think about the sentence ” Abusive individuals were once victims themselves” ?
Most people who are abused, don’t become abusers. Being abused yourself, does not justify or condone abusing someone else. It is still a choice <3
Abusive people don’t see their actions as abusive. It is somewhat of a normalcy for them. Their brains are wired like those of compassionate people. In all of my experiences, ‘Abusive’ Individuals were once victims themselves.
Not all abusive people have been abused themselves. And most abused people, don’t abuse others. Abuse is choice. If they lie about it, deny it (which most do), then they know it’s wrong, they know it’s abuse, but they do it anyway. Far too many people make excuses for abusers.
Ok Miss Lilly, I need some documented evidence to support your statement, ‘Not all Abusers were victims.’ How many victims of abuse are you aware of who have decided to turn their horrific experiences into studing Psychology/Psychiatrist? Miss, I’ve seen to product of abuse in every aspect of human growth. I came across at the time, a 12 years old child, sitting in prison for a crime he was forced to commit by his father. He was beaten brutally into the act of raping his younger sister as she was strapped to a table. I have some gruesome experiences to share with you, maybe you will reconsider your response to the content of my post. If you don’t have evidence to support you claim, I suggest we mutually discuss/share life’s everyday issues, provide simple guidance to our readers, otherwise, take your challenge to the Mental Health & Hygiene Department. By the way, I don’t remember requesting your friendship…but thanks for you input.
My article, is based upon my life experiences, and those of many I communicate with across my social media, Website – which is recommended by many mental health professionals, and my award winning Blog. You should check them out, and you may learn something outside of your own life experiences. Lilly.
Excellent article!!
Thank you <3
Thank you The Minds Journal – I truly appreciate you publishing my articles and I always hope they help people <3
All, Apaths, Egocentrics, Sociopaths & Psychopaths, are Narcissists, but not all Narcissists are the for-mentioned. Is a thin line, but is important to understand the difference…
Hi Susan, I wrote the article, and I believe there are narcissistic traits, in apaths and egocentrics, but they would not necessarily meet the criterion for the diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Diosrder. Narcissism is a continuum. But, they do indeed all have traits of selfishness, lack of empathy, lack of conscience <3
He always said he didn’t know what the word empathy meant. #narcissisticpsychopath