We use hugs to express our love for our family and friends. We also use them as a way of saying hello and goodbye when we meet good friends. And maybe we haven’t thought further than that about hugs. I mean, what is there to think about? Well actually, there’s a lot more to hugs than we know. Let’s find out!
Hugs are the most beautiful form of communication that builds trust and a sense of safety. It lets the other person know beyond any doubt that they matter and they are loved.
A hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds builds happy and feel good chemicals like oxytocin, dopamine and serotonin that elevates our mood and heals feelings of loneliness, isolation and fear.
“We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need twelve hugs a day for growth.” – Virginia Satir, Therapist and counselor.
There are different types of hugs that convey different messages between people. Hugs can reveal a lot about our relationships.
Let’s find out what the nine types of hugs are and what they reveal about the state of our relationships:
1) Hug From Behind – Protector
The back hug is when someone comes from the behind and hugs you. It could be while you are working in the kitchen or engrossed in some other work and your partner comes and pulls you closer and embraces you from the back. It is a very intimate form of the hug. It means the person is into you and they are also willing to go all miles to protect you. It literally screams “I got your back”.
If your guy hugs you like this often, you got a keeper!
2). The hug with a pat on the back
The hug with a pat on the back signifies assurance and comfort. We usually pat someone on the back while hugging them when we want to console them or comfort them. It is more like a friendly hug and can be shared between anyone, parents and kids or friends or acquaintances. It doesn’t have a romantic connotation to it.
3) Hug at waist
This kind of hug is an intimate gesture and it shows that your partner is pretty inclined towards you and wants to spend as much time as possible with you.
He trusts you and wants you to be in his intimate space and he is happy to see you.
4) Hug while making eye contact
Hugs while making eye contact speak of an intimacy of another level. It is when two people share a deep bond that they look into each other’s eyes while hugging.
It is all sparks and fire in the relationship if you have this kind of chemistry and love.
Hold on this one girls!
5) The bear hug
The bear hug is tight and reassuring and speaks volumes about the love that you have for the other person. It shows complete trust, comfort and intimacy between two partners. It is the sort of hug that relieves you of all sorts of tension and anxieties. It makes the person feel loved and safe at the same time.
If your guy hugs you like this then you have struck gold. He can be both your lover and best friend!