5 Post-Breakup Lies That Keep You STUCK With An Eternally Broken Heart

PostBreakup Lies Keep STUCK With Broken Heart

After you have gone through a breakup, how many times have you fed yourself certain lies to probably make the process a little bit easier? These lies will never make you feel better, nor will they help you move on in the long run. The only way to do this is to go the healthy route.

It’s time to move on. Here’s how.

Learning how to move on after a breakup is hard.

If getting over someone was as getting under someone else. Instead, it’s time-consuming and enough to make us wonder if asexual creatures actually have the right idea.

Still, getting over a breakup isn’t impossible. Millions of people do it every day (and perhaps you’ve done it before as well). Yet realizing a few truths helps make the process not only easier but more productive, too.

First of all, learning how to move on is more than learning how to stop pining for your lost love.

It’s also about learning what you may unconsciously be holding onto, and how this grip is stopping you from becoming complete — something you must be, in order to 1) fully move on OR 2) reconcile with your ex-flame.

Many times, when we are stuck in a state of suffering, we’re stuck in a place of feeling sorry for ourselves or feeling helpless and hopeless. That’s because we possess a set of foundational beliefs that guide us. And often they guide us in the wrong direction.

But when you change these beliefs, you arm yourself with the power to change yourself, as well. You discard these beliefs for the truths that lie beneath them.

Related: 9 Times When Leaving The Person You Love Is The Right Thing To Do

So, exactly what are these beliefs that are worthy of re-examining? They include the following.

Here Are 5 Post-Breakup Lies That Keep You STUCK With An Eternally Broken Heart

1. I can’t afford to take another 30 or 45 years to find another person who is just as good. I don’t have it in me.

On the surface, this belief already seems like an exaggeration. Odds are, it didn’t take you 30 years to find your first love — unless you started dating in utero.

Instead, it took you that long to gain the emotional maturity to be ready for a relationship. Now that you’ve gained it, it’s not going anywhere.

Creating a new relationship that is better than the old one is going to be much easier because you’ll be standing on the shoulders of the previous ones.

2. My ex must not have ever really loved me, this relationship must not have meant anything to them.

Another common belief among those hoping to learn how to get over a breakup is that their relationship was a farce.

But, odds are, anyone who stayed with you did, in fact, love you; why would they have stuck around, otherwise?

Rarely does a relationship end because there was no love involved; instead, it ends because there was a mismatch in values or a deep breakdown in communication. On the off chance that the relationship truly didn’t mean anything to them, then that’s their loss.

Better to know it meant something to you and that the time was not wasted.

Related: 12 Signs You’re Emotionally Traumatized By A Hurtful Breakup

3. We had the PERFECT relationship.

If the relationship was perfect, it’d still exist and you wouldn’t be reading this article.

It’s not that it was perfect, it’s that now that it’s gone, you’re only remembering the most wonderful parts of it. In short, you’re not seeing the full picture, just the highlight reel.

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