Words that will melt his heart
How would you feel if your partner said any of these phrases to you?
“You’re having a hard time, babe. Let me take over.”
“Don’t worry, sweetheart. Everything’s going to be okay.”
“Take all the time you need to get your thoughts and feelings out. I’m not going anywhere.”
“I love to just hold you tonight.”
“I was wrong.”
If you’re like most women, you’re dying to hear something like this coming out of his mouth.
You’d feel loved, protected, understood, and validated.
And you might think that, since these words feel so good to you, your partner would love to hear them as well.
You’d be wrong.
You and Him: Two Different Languages
In my forty years of working with couples, I have observed and recorded how men and women respond and open up to very different stimuli.
Most men and women basically want the same thing from each other – to feel deeply known and still beloved.
Yet, they respond to different words and phrases that evoke those romantic feelings of acceptance and appreciation.
Romantic language is too often geared to what a woman wants to hear and doesn’t allow for what captures a man’s heart. A woman responds to words that make her feel heard, cherished, cared for, and protected. She wants to feel secure.
For a man, the most romantic thing you can do is to respect and love him for who he is. He wants to know that you trust him to care for you and protect you.
This difference in expectation and desire results in many misunderstandings and relationship disconnects for both men and women.
You’ve probably become frustrated when you’ve approached your partner in what you thought was a loving way, only to have him dismiss you or not react in the way you hoped.
But now you know – his reaction has nothing to do with you!
It’s not that he doesn’t love you or appreciate the way you’re communicating; he just hears love differently.
Cheat Sheet: 4 Phrases That Will Melt His Heart
Since it’s nice to have some useful phrases in your back pocket, I’ve gathered a few you can express to your man to make him feel more seen and desired for who he really is. Try them – they can make a significant difference to your partner.
1. “I know my long stories can drive you crazy, so I’ll start with the bottom line and you can ask for more details if you need them.”
Women tend to ramble when they share experiences and be indirect when they want something. Most men prefer to get to the point. You can work to develop a more direct approach that doesn’t keep your partner hanging, as well as generously offer only what your man asks to know about without unnecessary embellishments.
2. “I love to know what’s in your heart and I know you can share your feelings more with me after we make love. The sequence is worth it to me.”
Sometimes it is perfectly reasonable to talk things out to make certain that love-making works better, but offering to forego that preliminary discussion is a sure-fire way to make a man feel understood and accepted.
3. “I trust that you love me by all the things you do for me, even when I don’t ask you to.”
Men often show their love by what they do for their women, especially when they’re not asked to do them. Washing a car, making a drink, pouring a bath, buying lingerie, arranging a surprise birthday party, picking up dinner, participating willingly in child care, or fixing something that’s broken are all great examples. Appreciate him.
When the love and excitement are replaced with doubt and fear, that’s when things start to turn ugly. And this is why trust in a relationship is sometimes more important than love. Here are 11 Reasons Why Trust In A Relationship Is More Important Than Love
