63 Most Commonly Used Phrases By Narcissistic Mothers

Author : Angie Atkinson

Things Narcissistic Mothers Say

63 Things Narcissistic Mothers Say
Do narcissistic parents have a handbook? You might think so when you hear what I’m going to share with you today. After a poll of the SPANily Support Group for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents, I’ve compiled a list of the most commonly used phrases by narcissistic mothers.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you’ve made a choice they don’t agree with

1. You only did that to hurt me!
2. You’re so ungrateful.
3. You never stop to think.
4. You are SO selfish!
5. This is never going to work.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you’re upset or crying about something and they are annoyed by your emotions, which they feel are not real or relevant.

1. Get over it.
2. You’re so dramatic.
3. I’ll give you something to cry about.
4. I told you so.
5. Why do things always affect you more than other people?
6. These are the choices that you have made.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you attempt to confront them about anything

1. What is wrong with you? You’re making too much out of nothing.
2. I never did that, you are just sensitive, I don’t remember it that way.
3. I don’t care.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you have proved them wrong or have a different opinion than they do

1. You think you’re SO smart!
2. I have no idea what you’re talking about.
3. Who told you that? You’re so gullible; you can’t believe everything people say.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you question their authority

1. Don’t you dare look at me like that?
2. Get that look off your face before I slap it off.
3. Who do you think you are?
4. How DARE you question me?

Things narcissistic mothers say when they’re guilt-tripping you

1. I will die without you.
2. You’re breaking my heart.
3. You are the reason your father and I divorced.
4. You only care about yourself.
5. I’ve given up my whole life for you!
6. You owe me this (because I gave you life)
7. I’m the only one who will ever really love you.
8. You’re ungrateful.

a narcissist will blame you

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are tearing you down and devaluing you

1. You were a mistake. Everything in my life is your fault because you were born.
2. You’re just like (insert awful individual here)!
3. You’re never going to amount to anything. I don’t know whose child you are.
4. I’m so ashamed of you. You should be ashamed of yourself.
5. No one will ever love you. No one will ever want you.
6. You are worthless.
7. You’re immature.
8. You don’t deserve to be happy.
9. Just wait till your father gets home!
10. It’s a shame you don’t have any friends. People would like you more if you weren’t so ______.
11. Everyone else agrees that you’re horrible/lazy/stupid/otherwise unsavory.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are jealous of you

1. You’re such a Polly Anna, always with your rose-colored glasses on!
2. You think you’re so pretty/smart/good
3. You’re a (insert rude term here) and you are only trying to get attention!
4. Guys only like you because you’re a (insert rude term here), or girls only like you for your money.
5. People always used to tell me I was pretty.
6. You’re ugly on the inside.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are issuing the back-handed compliments

1. You’re so smart but you have zero common sense.
2. You would be so pretty if you just lost a few pounds
3. Your house is so clean! No wonder your two-year-old can’t read yet.
4. That dress is so pretty! It would look great on your sister.
5. I’m so proud of your accomplishment – obviously, you get it from me.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are having delusions of grandeur

1. I am not capable of lying! How dare you accuse me of that?
2. Everyone wishes they could have a mother like me.
3. Calm down! You’re being irrational!
4. I’ll never understand how I gave birth to a horrible child like you.
5. I can’t believe you’re no good at ______. You should be successful at _______ because you’re MY child!

things narcissistic mothers say when they are having delusions of grandeur

Check out the below video to know things narcissistic mothers say for mental manipulation and control

Did you enjoy reading about phrases narcissistic mothers use in different situations? Let us know in the comments below.

Written by Angie Atkinson
Originally appeared on Queenbeing.com

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Angie Atkinson

"Certified Life Coach, Author, Survivor. Discover, Understand and Overcome Narcissistic Abuse with Certified Life Coach, author and survivor Angie Atkinson, a recognized expert in narcissism in relationships and narcissistic personality disorder. As creator of the DUO Method of Healing, it’s her mission to to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves."

Disclaimer: The informational content on The Minds Journal have been created and reviewed by qualified mental health professionals. They are intended solely for educational and self-awareness purposes and should not be used as a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are experiencing emotional distress or have concerns about your mental health, please seek help from a licensed mental health professional or healthcare provider.

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  1. Sherry G

    As the child of a female narcissist, I am impressed by the accuracy of this article. I can also add that no matter the age the narcissist reaches, the behavior continues until their last breath. My best advice for self-preservation is to take steps to distance oneself from such a person both emotionally and physically as soon as it is practical and search out older women who possess maternal instinct with whom to build satisfying surrogate parent-child relationships.

    Reply
  2. Linda

    I only discovered I was codependent when I was 50 as I burned out of teaching then read the book will I ever be good enough my Dr McBride. I then realised my mum was a covert narcissist as she was always anxious and clingy to me but would control my dad and me that she could not be on her own. I gave her compassion until I woke up.

    Reply
  3. Georgina

    I didn’t find out about narcissism until after my mother had died, when I was sixty years old. A Dr friend told me that I was describing the behaviour of a narcissist. Dr Karyl McBride’s book was an eye – opener. I started off by underlining relevant pieces of text, then stopped, because I would have underlined all of it! I was constantly told that I was “maladjusted“, and “eaten up with selfishness”, which I now know was narcissistic projection, that I “didn’t deserve” x,y, or z, that I “deluded” myself, and that she would send me to Child Guidance – which she couldn’t have done anyway. She was also inordinately proud of the fact that she didn’t like children, and said that having children was “beneath” her. She was a payroll clerk with serious delusions of grandeur. Unfortunately, I felt all through my childhood that I had to make it up to her for being born, when the truth was that neither she nor my father deserved to have children. Learning about narcissism has really helped me, albeit later in life.

    Reply
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63 Things Narcissistic Mothers Say
Do narcissistic parents have a handbook? You might think so when you hear what I’m going to share with you today. After a poll of the SPANily Support Group for Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents, I’ve compiled a list of the most commonly used phrases by narcissistic mothers.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you’ve made a choice they don’t agree with

1. You only did that to hurt me!
2. You’re so ungrateful.
3. You never stop to think.
4. You are SO selfish!
5. This is never going to work.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you’re upset or crying about something and they are annoyed by your emotions, which they feel are not real or relevant.

1. Get over it.
2. You’re so dramatic.
3. I’ll give you something to cry about.
4. I told you so.
5. Why do things always affect you more than other people?
6. These are the choices that you have made.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you attempt to confront them about anything

1. What is wrong with you? You’re making too much out of nothing.
2. I never did that, you are just sensitive, I don’t remember it that way.
3. I don’t care.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you have proved them wrong or have a different opinion than they do

1. You think you’re SO smart!
2. I have no idea what you’re talking about.
3. Who told you that? You’re so gullible; you can’t believe everything people say.

Things narcissistic mothers say when you question their authority

1. Don’t you dare look at me like that?
2. Get that look off your face before I slap it off.
3. Who do you think you are?
4. How DARE you question me?

Things narcissistic mothers say when they’re guilt-tripping you

1. I will die without you.
2. You’re breaking my heart.
3. You are the reason your father and I divorced.
4. You only care about yourself.
5. I’ve given up my whole life for you!
6. You owe me this (because I gave you life)
7. I’m the only one who will ever really love you.
8. You’re ungrateful.

a narcissist will blame you

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are tearing you down and devaluing you

1. You were a mistake. Everything in my life is your fault because you were born.
2. You’re just like (insert awful individual here)!
3. You’re never going to amount to anything. I don’t know whose child you are.
4. I’m so ashamed of you. You should be ashamed of yourself.
5. No one will ever love you. No one will ever want you.
6. You are worthless.
7. You’re immature.
8. You don’t deserve to be happy.
9. Just wait till your father gets home!
10. It’s a shame you don’t have any friends. People would like you more if you weren’t so ______.
11. Everyone else agrees that you’re horrible/lazy/stupid/otherwise unsavory.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are jealous of you

1. You’re such a Polly Anna, always with your rose-colored glasses on!
2. You think you’re so pretty/smart/good
3. You’re a (insert rude term here) and you are only trying to get attention!
4. Guys only like you because you’re a (insert rude term here), or girls only like you for your money.
5. People always used to tell me I was pretty.
6. You’re ugly on the inside.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are issuing the back-handed compliments

1. You’re so smart but you have zero common sense.
2. You would be so pretty if you just lost a few pounds
3. Your house is so clean! No wonder your two-year-old can’t read yet.
4. That dress is so pretty! It would look great on your sister.
5. I’m so proud of your accomplishment – obviously, you get it from me.

Things narcissistic mothers say when they are having delusions of grandeur

1. I am not capable of lying! How dare you accuse me of that?
2. Everyone wishes they could have a mother like me.
3. Calm down! You’re being irrational!
4. I’ll never understand how I gave birth to a horrible child like you.
5. I can’t believe you’re no good at ______. You should be successful at _______ because you’re MY child!

things narcissistic mothers say when they are having delusions of grandeur

Check out the below video to know things narcissistic mothers say for mental manipulation and control

Did you enjoy reading about phrases narcissistic mothers use in different situations? Let us know in the comments below.

Written by Angie Atkinson
Originally appeared on Queenbeing.com

You may also like:

Published On:

Last updated on:

,

Angie Atkinson

"Certified Life Coach, Author, Survivor. Discover, Understand and Overcome Narcissistic Abuse with Certified Life Coach, author and survivor Angie Atkinson, a recognized expert in narcissism in relationships and narcissistic personality disorder. As creator of the DUO Method of Healing, it’s her mission to to help those who have experienced the emotional and mental devastation that comes with narcissistic abuse in these incredibly toxic relationships to (re)discover their true selves, stop the gaslighting and manipulation and move forward into their genuine desires – into a life that is exactly what they choose for themselves."

Responses

  1. Sherry G

    As the child of a female narcissist, I am impressed by the accuracy of this article. I can also add that no matter the age the narcissist reaches, the behavior continues until their last breath. My best advice for self-preservation is to take steps to distance oneself from such a person both emotionally and physically as soon as it is practical and search out older women who possess maternal instinct with whom to build satisfying surrogate parent-child relationships.

    Reply
  2. Linda

    I only discovered I was codependent when I was 50 as I burned out of teaching then read the book will I ever be good enough my Dr McBride. I then realised my mum was a covert narcissist as she was always anxious and clingy to me but would control my dad and me that she could not be on her own. I gave her compassion until I woke up.

    Reply
  3. Georgina

    I didn’t find out about narcissism until after my mother had died, when I was sixty years old. A Dr friend told me that I was describing the behaviour of a narcissist. Dr Karyl McBride’s book was an eye – opener. I started off by underlining relevant pieces of text, then stopped, because I would have underlined all of it! I was constantly told that I was “maladjusted“, and “eaten up with selfishness”, which I now know was narcissistic projection, that I “didn’t deserve” x,y, or z, that I “deluded” myself, and that she would send me to Child Guidance – which she couldn’t have done anyway. She was also inordinately proud of the fact that she didn’t like children, and said that having children was “beneath” her. She was a payroll clerk with serious delusions of grandeur. Unfortunately, I felt all through my childhood that I had to make it up to her for being born, when the truth was that neither she nor my father deserved to have children. Learning about narcissism has really helped me, albeit later in life.

    Reply
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    1. As the child of a female narcissist, I am impressed by the accuracy of this article. I can also add that no matter the age the narcissist reaches, the behavior continues until their last breath. My best advice for self-preservation is to take steps to distance oneself from such a person both emotionally and physically as soon as it is practical and search out older women who possess maternal instinct with whom to build satisfying surrogate parent-child relationships.

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    2. I only discovered I was codependent when I was 50 as I burned out of teaching then read the book will I ever be good enough my Dr McBride. I then realised my mum was a covert narcissist as she was always anxious and clingy to me but would control my dad and me that she could not be on her own. I gave her compassion until I woke up.

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    3. I didn’t find out about narcissism until after my mother had died, when I was sixty years old. A Dr friend told me that I was describing the behaviour of a narcissist. Dr Karyl McBride’s book was an eye – opener. I started off by underlining relevant pieces of text, then stopped, because I would have underlined all of it! I was constantly told that I was “maladjusted“, and “eaten up with selfishness”, which I now know was narcissistic projection, that I “didn’t deserve” x,y, or z, that I “deluded” myself, and that she would send me to Child Guidance – which she couldn’t have done anyway. She was also inordinately proud of the fact that she didn’t like children, and said that having children was “beneath” her. She was a payroll clerk with serious delusions of grandeur. Unfortunately, I felt all through my childhood that I had to make it up to her for being born, when the truth was that neither she nor my father deserved to have children. Learning about narcissism has really helped me, albeit later in life.

      Reply

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