8. You sweat the small stuff.
“Unhappiness is really an incorrect way of seeing. When we are unhappy we don’t see life as it really is. We are in a condition of veiled light, of shadows.” – Frederick Lenz
Traffic jams, parking fines, forgetting things at home – yes, these things and a whole lot more can definitely be frustrating, but it’s not worth letting it get you down. Ask yourself, is what I’m angry about or stressing over going to matter in one year’s time? Most of the time the answer is “no”, so if what you’re angry or worried about doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, then is it really worth getting hot and bothered about it now?
9. You’re holding a grudge.
As the saying goes, holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die – the only person it hurts is you. So if someone else has wronged you, choose to forgive them – not because they necessarily deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.
10. You don’t live a healthy lifestyle.
“Unhappiness indicates wrong thinking, just as ill health indicates a bad regimen.” Paul Bourget
You’ll meet a few happy people who don’t eat well, exercise frequently or make it their business to get a good night’s sleep. It’s almost a law of nature.
11. You abuse drugs or alcohol.
“Unhappiness is not knowing what we want, and killing ourselves to get it.” – Don Herold
Alcohol is a depressant, and taking drugs to make you happy is the human equivalent of a dog chasing its tale.
12. You don’t learn from your mistakes.
If you don’t learn from your mistakes at work, in your personal life and with regards to your health, then you’re going to keep repeating them – which of course is another recipe for unhappiness. So if something in your life didn’t turn out the way you’d have liked it to, take the time to analyze where you went wrong and work out what you can do differently next time so that the outcome isn’t the same as before.
“We create our own unhappiness. The purpose of suffering is to help us understand we are the ones who cause it.” – Willie Nelson
If you found yourself ticking a number of boxes on this list, then the good news is that while the presence of any of these circumstances or behaviors is sure to stifle your happiness, they’re all relatively simple situations or habits to change. So take responsibility for your happiness and make that change now.
As the saying goes, there’s no better time than the present.
Here’s an interesting video that you may find helpful:
“Unhappiness and dissatisfaction with life are not signs of mental illness, but of growing intelligence.” – Ken Wilber
These were some of the main reasons why you probably feel unhappy with your life. Invest some time in analyzing your daily habits and your lifestyle and try to figure out what you can do to bring about small changes that can help you transform your life and experience the sunshine a little bit more. Most of the time, we ourselves are the cause of our own happiness. If this is the case for you too, then change your habits and earn back your happiness.