Sociopaths and narcissists are probably two of the worst and most toxic people you can ever cross paths with. So what happens when you stumble upon a mix of both, say, a narcopath? Well, nothing short of a disaster! Narcopaths are notorious for not just being toxic, but for being very dangerous too because they can go to any lengths to make sure their selfish needs are met.
Now when I say dangerous, I don’t mean they will try to murder with you a machete. Their way of abusing and tormenting you will be more understated and subtle, and most of the time, you might not even realize that you’re being abused. Narcopaths trick their victims in such a way, that the latter doesn’t even realize what’s happening, and when they finally do, their whole world comes crashing down on them.
It can be hard to recognize narcopaths sometimes, at least in the beginning. But there are a few signature traits in every narcopath out there, and knowing these traits can help you protect yourself from their toxic games and endless manipulation.
8 Signs You Are In A Relationship With A Narcopath
1. They will make insulting comparisons, in the guise of sweet compliments.
If you are in a relationship with a narcopath, you will have no dearth of compliments. But there’s always a catch, always. You will notice that even though they are complimenting and flattering you a lot, they are comparing you with others while they are at it. Sure, you make some amazing ravioli, but Susan’s ravioli is just like yours, but more magical. They love that you can spend your Friday night at home in your PJs and that you don’t feel the need to be as ‘fun’ as Charlotte who loves to party every weekend.
Get it? Narcopaths ‘love’ everything about you, but they will subtly shame you too by comparing you with others, and how you can be more like them. At the end of the day, it’s not about you, it’s more about them and how they want you to be. That’s why they compliment you and put you down at the same time, so that you feel guilty and bad about yourself, and do what they ultimately manipulate you into doing.
2. They have a shady past, especially when it comes to relationships.
Whenever you talk to them about their exes, nothing will seem to add up, or their whole relationship history will seem very shady and weird. They will have odd stories about their past relationships and partners, and the more you probe them, the more things will seem complicated. But one thing is for sure – they will always be the victim, and it’s always the other person who has wronged them in some way or the other.
All their past relationships have failed because of their partners, and the narcopath had absolutely no fault at all. Their exes took advantage of them, hurt them, abused them, treated them badly from every aspect, and the kicker? All of a narcopath’s exes are crazy! It’s always someone else’s fault, but theirs.
3. They are experts at rushing things.
From the first date itself, you will feel like things are moving at a lightning-fast pace; they will start planning the second date while you are on your first one. When you are looking for a normal, healthy relationship, you would want to take it slow and get to know each other more before taking any major step, right? Well, that is not how a narcopath thinks.
Within days or weeks of knowing you, they will start talking about having a future together and if you show any kind of hesitance to this, they will make a huge scene and accuse you of playing around with them. It might just be a few months, but they start talking about moving in together, getting married, and even having kids! Even if it freaks you out to no end and your gut instinct screams at you to take a step back, you choose to ignore it, because you don’t want to break their heart (narcopath’s manipulation!).