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10 Signs You Are In a Fantasy Relationship and Not A Real One

Signs You Are In a Fantasy Relationship

Love. This one word alone has the potential to evoke a thousand feelings in you, and it is something that everyone is looking for in their lives. Love truly makes the world go round. In the walk of life, you will come across different kinds of love and relationships, one of the most interesting ones is fantasy relationships. Yes, you heard that right. Fantasy relationships do exist.

A fantasy relationship is a one-sided relationship where one person develops feelings for the other person and obsesses over being in a romantic relationship with them. Also known as limerence, it includes constantly daydreaming and fantasizing about their object of attraction. 

Here Are 10 Signs You Are In A Fantasy Relationship And Not A Real One

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10 Signs You Are In a Fantasy Relationship and Not A Real One

1. Daydreaming about them all day, every day.

Even if you are not in a relationship with the person you are attracted to, you will find yourself constantly imagining scenarios where both of you are together and happy, and where they are head over heels in love with you. You will dream of a happy and perfect future with them, and you will keep on dreaming about everything that you might have seen in romance movies or read in romance novels.

Daydreaming and fantasizing about the person you are attracted to, becomes a habit. You will conjure up all sorts of fictional and romantic situations in your head, where they are hopelessly and madly in love with you, and you are the center of their universe.

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2. Displaying physical symptoms of nervousness.

If you are in a fantasy relationship, you will experience physical symptoms, like having anxiety or feeling jittery when you are waiting for their calls and texts. You get really tensed up and start thinking about bad scenarios whenever they don’t call or might not reply to your text the way you had expected them to.

You might feel extremely nervous and start sweating before talking to them, and constantly rehearse what you are going to say. Moreover, if you are with them or close to them you might feel dizzy or faint. All these physical symptoms points towards you living a dream relationship.

3. You are the ‘hero’ in the ‘relationship’.

When you fantasize about the person you like, those fantasies tend to have a common element – you are the hero who always saves them from all their problems, including any dangerous situations they might be in. As a result of which, they fall in love with you instantly, and never let you go. This kind of heroic tendency sometimes spills on to your real life as well, with you feeling extremely protective of them.

You always want to look out for them and are always feeling anxious about their safety. You might have good intentions, but this kind of thinking is not really healthy, especially from a psychological standpoint.

4. Stalking becomes a possibility.

When in a fantasy relationship, the attraction you feel for the other person is very potent. You find it very difficult to stay away from them. So, you find ways to be nearer or closer to them by dropping at places, which they regularly visit, or frequently pass by their homes, just to catch a glimpse of them.

For example, you will ‘bump’ into them at their favorite coffee shop, and pretend that it is just a fortunate coincidence. However, make sure that you don’t come across as a stalker because that is extremely creepy and might give them the wrong idea about you. Stalking is not right, in any situation, and going in that direction will only make things worse.

5. They are your ‘soulmate’.

Emotionally, you feel that they are ‘The One’ for you, and both of you are meant to be together. You feel a strong and magnetic pull towards them, which is impossible for you to ignore. Even though you hardly know each other, you are convinced that they are your soulmate. You imagine a beautiful future with them, where you see everything from rose-tinted glasses.

Related: 8 Signs He’s Not Your Soulmate

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