If Your Partner Cheats On You, It’s Because They Actually Love You

If Your Partner Cheats On You, It’s Because They Actually Love You

He then joined Ashley Madison to see what it was about. Though he claims he didn’t intend to make any moves on the site, he eventually began using the site regularly. And, like the women Walker interviewed, Dylan says the catalyst for his affairs is the fact that he is in love with his wife.

“I’m extremely happy with her in a lot of senses and I definitely love her,” he said. “However, while we’re as close as any married couple, there’s an absence of what I would describe as a ‘healthy sexual relationship.’”

Cheating is a wake-up call for relationships in a couple of different ways.

First, if kept a secret, the cheater is able to stay in the relationship while still having their needs met. As Dylan told Cosmopolitan, “I can see the positives it’s brought to our relationship, too. It’s definitely benefited our marriage.”

Second, if the partner being cheated on finds out, it opens a conversation into what can change in the relationship to prevent cheating from happening again. Cheating reveals cracks in a relationship that, if addressed properly, couples can patch up.

It may never feel great to know you’ve been cheated on, and that’s to be expected. But it doesn’t have to signal the end of the relationship as a whole. Instead, couples can look at cheating as a desperate act of love and approach the end of the relationship as it was and embark on new beginnings as a couple.

According to our survey, 51 percent of people see cheating as a forgivable offense. With a change in mindset and more open hearts and minds, this statistic can easily trend upward as more people accept cheating in a more optimistic light.


Written by Micki Spollen

Originally appeared on Yourtango.com

Printed with permission

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If Your Partner Cheats On You, It’s Because They Actually Love You

5 thoughts on “If Your Partner Cheats On You, It’s Because They Actually Love You”

  1. This is bullshit… if your partner wasn’t meeting your needs sexually and emotionally why not talk to them about it than going out to cheat unless your relationship doesn’t have a solid ground and both of you don’t communicate very well… there are a lot of ways to go about it rather than cheating, it hurts when cheated on so how do you expect the person that was been cheated to to agree with this bullshit you wrote here.. cos the trauma keeps ringing and making them see their partner differently bcos when trust is broken it takes a lot or almost impossible to build it back… cheating is BAD, simple!!!

  2. This is a load of fucking bullshit probably written by a controlling narcissist. Cheating is emotional murder, and the spouse betrayed carries that scars of your unfaithfulness. Pull your head out of your ass and do the world a favor. Take this shot down or kill yourself.
    Moron.

  3. That’s what you get when you ask the users of Ashley Madison about cheating. They’ve cheated and they’ve been telling themselves these things in an effort to justify their behavior, because if they have to look at the pain they’ve caused their partner honestly, they wouldn’t be able to handle the guilt and shame. Saying they lied, betrayed, and f*#ked someone else out of love for their partner makes them feel better about themselves.
    The kindest thing would have been to openly address the issues with the partner and leave the relationship if problems could not be resolved.

  4. What a load of BS!!! Your partner DOESN’T respect you or your relationship, if they cheat on you! If you’ve expressed to your partner that your love life needs more fulfilment and they still can’t or won’t try to work on it w/you, then it’s best for you to just part ways then. It’s better to LEAVE before cheat!
    I don’t know what kinda people were interviewed and apart of this survey, but they’re definitely a different kinda breed! LOL

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