Non-Attachment: What Types of Attachments Do You Carry?

It was 4 in the afternoon.  My bedroom looked as though it had been attacked by a gang of hungry 2 year old’s.  My living room was the perfect replica of a WWII invasion.  And my draws, cupboards and wardrobes were over-flooding with underwear, clothing, food wrappers, and the most bizarre pieces of memorabilia known to man.

Suddenly, in that moment, I decided that I didn’t care if all my possessions were to burn in a fire.  It would probably be quite liberating, and besides, even the mere thought brought a momentary mental release.

That was all I needed.

In that hour I decided to change something small about my chaotic and crowded environment.  I started sorting through my clothing and shoes, discarding or donating what was unnecessary or superfluous.  I also started reading up on minimalism, and the Buddhist principle of non-attachment, and realized to my equal dismay and delight that I had only scraped the surface of living a free, unfettered existence.



There appears to be two different kinds of people in the world: the fish and the leech.  The fish are rare people who drift along within the currents of life with no resistance.  The leech on the other hand, are people who resist life.  They take without giving, and attach themselves savagely to persons, beliefs and possessions relentlessly.  These people are extremely common, existing within every continent and every country in the world.

The truth is, most of us have an inner leech waiting to latch onto whatever brings us the most security, comfort or pleasure.  The key is to discover the secrets of the carefree Fish in order to stop ourselves from perpetuating our pain, and the pain of others.



For an Involution of consciousness to occur within us, it’s essential to discover what our strongest attachments are in this world.  In my own journey so far, I’ve discovered three main types of non-attachment, that bring peace and joy to our lives once we’ve managed to master them.



It’s no wonder that many of the sages and spiritual masters of the world were sojourners for most of their lives, having little food or money and certainly no lands or property to claim as their own.

Of course, ascetics like Lao Zi and Francis of Assisi are extreme examples of non-attachment, ones that it’s not really realistic or necessary for us to aspire to.  Nevertheless, their behavior points to a higher truth: that material possessions are meaningless and transient.  The more you have physically, the more you have to lose, and thus, the more you have to worry about.

When our happiness and security lies in the external world of objects and things, we are in constant peril.  At any moment our houses could burn down, our treasures could be stolen, our bank accounts could be hacked, our businesses could go bust.  Attachment to the material world is like building a fortress on shifting sands: your house is bound to crumble and fall one time or another.

If you’re a Material Leech you:

  • Love the prestige of having a stylish house, designer car, fancy clothing and other items that indicate how wealthy and successful you are.
  • Gain your self-esteem and happiness from material possession.  E.g. You love having the latest iPhone.  Without it you would feel outdated and a bit of a loser.
  • Dream about living in a better house, having a better kitchen, a more expensive surround sound system, a larger pool, renovating the garden, and so forth.  You gain a lot of pleasure from these daydreams.
  • Shopping sprees make you excited.  You love bringing back bags of clothing, accessories, shoes and other household items.
  • You can’t stand the thought of losing all of your possessions in a natural disaster.  You would be traumatized.
  • You feel as though you couldn’t do without certain items or luxuries.
  • You feel as though insuring your possessions is essential for your well-being.  You want some kind of monetary reimbursement if you lose something … to buy it back again.
  • You love surrounding yourself with beautiful furniture, linen, paintings etc.  It’s absolutely necessary to enhance your quality of life and your well-being.
  • You’re really upset or annoyed when something you want discontinues or sells out.



Also known as detachment, personal non-attachment is the ability to coexist with other people without using them as a means towards an end.  In other words, personal non-attachment is not needing anyone for love, acceptance, or validation.

Aletheia Luna
Aletheia Luna is an influential spiritual writer whose work has changed the lives of thousands of people worldwide. After escaping the religious sect she was raised in, Luna experienced a profound existential crisis that led to her spiritual awakening. As a spiritual counselor and professional writer, Luna's mission is to help others become conscious of their entrapment and find joy, empowerment, and liberation in any circumstance. See more of her work at


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