There’s No Such Thing As Normal, We all Have Emotional Dysfunctions Says Studies

No Thing As Normal Emotional Dysfunctions

Written By Christine B. L. Adams

Come to think of it, what do you regard as ‘normal’ or ‘being normal’? The truth is, there is actually no such thing as normal, and every human being in this planet has some kind of dysfunctions in their lives.

Believing In The Bell-Shaped Curve

We’ve been taught to believe a large percentage of the population is “normal.” In school, we learned about the bell-shaped curve and how most of us fell under the middle of the bell. We were taught that a few of us were at the extreme ends of the curve. But do we follow the supposed norm of emotionally and behaviorally well-adapted people?

Do we rarely experience anxieties, depressions, addictions, problems with children, and marital dysfunction? Do most of us have balanced and happy relationships, devoid of significant strife and loaded with fulfillment?

No Normal Found In Clinical Practice

In over 40 years of clinical psychiatric practice, I have not found anyone who is normal. This is also the case for patients’ family members who do not seek treatment. This is true for friends, colleagues, and their family members. Every person has skews in his or her personality. These run the gamut from mild to severe in degree. Large groups of normal people are not found.

Homer B. Martin, MD, and I studied several thousands of people of all ages in long-term dynamic psychotherapy. We found that people raise their children in lopsided ways via what we call “emotional conditioning.”

This is a form of classical conditioning that shapes people emotionally and teaches them how to conduct their relationships. This leads people to react to life’s run-ins in imperceptibly to considerably inappropriate ways. We all make errors in judgments, choices of mates and friendships, and in raising our children.

Related: 12 Signs Someone Might Be Emotionally Unstable

Don’t Confuse Normal With Not Seeking Treatment

We may think that normality does exist because of the sizable number of people who don’t seek psychological treatment. We may assume that these people are less emotionally or mentally perturbed or disturbed than those requesting treatment. Over decades we have found many patients’ family members to be more emotionally ill than the patients we saw.

Two or more people can forge relationship problems, but only one of them may seek treatment. We found the seekers of psychotherapy treatment to be more distressed and inquisitive than were their ill family members.

Why Continue To Stigmatize?

If we all suffer from some level of emotional distress, dysfunction, or emotional or mental illness, where is the stigma? Should we continue to stigmatize one another? What does this do to us? We can only perpetuate emotional and mental stigma if we have a comparison population without such problems.

We haven’t found these people. We’d be better off tackling the emotional difficulties we all share from the perspective of our shared and often problem-ridden humanity, not as them (the emotionally and mentally ill) versus us, the normal.


Holmes, A., & Patrick, L. (2018). "The Myth of Optimality in Clinical Neuroscience." Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 22:3, 241-257.

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Originally Appeared In Psychology Today 

Emotional dysfunctions are present in everyone’s lives, and there really is no such thing as normal. What may seem normal on the surface, might not be the actual truth, you know. The concept of normality was, and is still relative.

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There's No Such Thing As Normal, We all Have Emotional Dysfunctions Says Studies

Christine B. L. Adams

Dr. Christine Adams is responsible for bringing to the forefront the new concept of emotional conditioning and how it creates your personality and shapes your relationships throughout your life. She has been a child and adult psychiatrist for forty years and has helped thousands of people understand their relationship problems or failures. She is also co-author with Homer B. Martin, M.D., of the book, Living On Automatic: How Emotional Conditioning Shapes Our Lives and Relationships, which offers an exciting and groundbreaking new concept of how people relate to one another. Dr. Adams lives with her husband and currently teaches classes on personalities and relationships for The Veritas Society at Bellarmine University, Louisville, KY.View Author posts