5) That letting go is not giving up.
I can’t tell you how many of my clients who are struggling with letting go of love in bad relationships tell me that they aren’t walking away because they don’t want to give up! That they aren’t quitters.
And I always tell them the same thing – that there are two people in a relationship and that as long as you are the only one making the effort, or that the efforts you both are making aren’t working, then it’s not a matter of giving up. You can only control your own efforts – only you can finish that marathon – but you can’t control someone else. It’s not giving up if your partner isn’t giving their all as well.
So, if you are struggling with ‘giving up,’ don’t! Know that you can let go of a love that isn’t serving you and move on with your head held high, knowing that you did your best.
6) How strong you are.
For those of us who survive bad relationships (which, pretty much, we all do in the end) we know how strong we are.
By having the fortitude to let go of a love that wasn’t serving you, you are reclaiming your own power, a power that you might have lost in the struggle that was your bad relationship.
Talk to someone who has escaped from a bad situation and you will see someone who might be sad, perhaps really sad, but someone who feels powerful having been able to do it.
Letting go of bad relationships is incredibly difficult – do it and you will feel stronger than you ever have before.
7 ) That being alone is better than being unhappy.
One thing that can become very clear when you are in a bad relationship is how much better it might be to be alone than to be with someone who makes you miserable.
There is nothing worse than the day in, day out the suffering of being in a bad relationship. You wake up to it, it lives with you throughout the day and is there when you go to bed at night.
Sure, when you are alone you might spend time alone on your couch binge-watching Game of Thrones, but your time is your own. You can do what you want. And, while you might feel miserable that you are alone, I can promise you that it’s not as miserable as you might feel if you spend your days struggling with bad relationships.
Learning lessons from bad relationships is a key part of finding love and happiness.
The goal is to not repeat history – not at work, not with parenting, not with behaviors and not with relationships. The goal is to learn from our mistakes and move forward to find success in the future.
So, take a good look at bad relationships that you have had in your life and take inventory of what lessons you have learned so that you can do things differently in the future!
You can do it! True love is out there waiting for you!
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