We all do shitty things that we don’t admit. Don’t we? We all try to appear well and show the best side to the world. But, sometimes we can do things that are hurtful, angry, and obnoxious.
Most of us suffer because of all the negative aspects that we carry throughout life, making it a habit, refusing to adjust or change. We have been avoiding those negative aspects of ourselves that make us suck in life.
It’s finally time for us to be honest and admit that we suck in many ways. We don’t have to be negative but the goal is to find necessary ways to fix things about ourselves that are not so good.
So, without further ado let’s find out 15 reasons why we suck at life.
1. Pretending to be okay, when we’re not.
We suck because we don’t know how to communicate our feelings in a direct way. We keep bottling them up unless we can’t anymore. It’s different when we’re not being able to express ourselves and different when all we do is crave attention.
There are times when we expect others to check up on us without having to tell them how we exactly feel. A Swedish proverb said, “Shared joy is a double joy; shared sorrow is half sorrow. ” Hence, we must share our sadness as well as our joys.
When we say things like, I’m fine when we’re not is denying our true feelings; we convince ourselves and others that everything is okay. Pretending that we don’t have problems, conflicts at work or home is very painful.
2. When we don’t take climate change seriously.
How often do we talk about the environment or topics like climate change in our daily lives? We truly suck as human beings because we’re not at all concerned about climate change, which is going to affect our future generations.
No matter how selfish the world might be, climate change is real and it’s already affecting our world today. From melting ice caps to the steadily rising temperatures, we don’t even have enough clean water to drink or clean air to breathe. It’s high time, human beings need to stop thinking about profits and act as soon as possible.
3. We’re not spontaneous enough and stick to routines.
We love to make a routine out of things and we intend to stick to them for a long time. Routines are great, as they teach us a lot about time management that is useful to us. But, do you also know that routines are also incredibly boring when it becomes a habit?
Therefore, we suck because we don’t try to break from our routines once in a while, and we become so comfortable with routines that we don’t try to be adventurous.
But, when life gives you lemons, you just don’t make lemonade, you add a bit of tequila and make yourself a margarita, because you deserve it.
When we break the norm and do things that inspire us or make us feel alive, we’ll know that our lives aren’t as bad as we think they are.
4. We hold on to grudges and don’t forgive.
We often hold grudges when someone we trust has wronged us or let us down. But do you know what sucks? When we don’t want to make an effort to forgive someone. Life is much easier when you acknowledge their mistakes and forgive them. You don’t have to engage with them but you can surely let them go.
It sucks that we carry around the negative and painful experiences instead of leaving them behind.
Even if no one is really at fault, we want someone to blame for, as a coping mechanism.
Therefore, one way to not ponder upon insignificant things is to let them go if they cause you trouble, no matter how hard it is.
5. We all want something in return but never give back.
We, as humans, are selfish sometimes. We always look for favors in return, and our intentions are never pure. If you help a friend out, you’ll expect them to help you in return. It’s normal to think this way, we all do. Have you ever wondered about doing something with pure intentions? Trust me, you wouldn’t suck if you did.
Try not to be a taker and learn to give more in return. You can start small, like buying food for a homeless person, visiting a senior care center, and spreading love to those who need it. You’ll realize how giving is so much better than receiving something.
6. We value money over relationships.
Both money and love are important aspects of our life. But, on practical grounds love can’t feed us and money can’t make us happy. Does that make sense?
But we suck when we value money over relationships. It only makes sense that you’re young, ambitious and wants to be successful but having more money doesn’t always make you successful. Money is a necessity and helps us to buy things we need but you shouldn’t always be chasing money.
That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t care about money and give it all away, what it is that you need to balance things in your life.
7. We think the Universe owes us something.
Like, Mark Twain said: “The world doesn’t owe you anything. It was here first.” The universe is not entitled to give us something in return, and we aren’t doing a favor by existing in this world.
You need to work hard, pay your own bills and not wait for the universe to give a sign or wait for things to magically get better. So, to not suck, let’s make great things happen!
8. We have discriminated and mistreated others.
Every day millions of people are discriminated against, based on their color, status or religion. As humans, we really suck that we practice intolerant behaviors and don’t respect others for their practices or beliefs. From judging others for what they wear, to what they do, or who they love, we make an issue out of everything. We love how they feel powerless by attacking them with hateful things.
One step of not sucking in life is to take a vow to be more open, educated and aware about things around us, to be less judgmental and not mistreat others.
9. We are self-absorbed and narcissists.
Being confident is a great thing, it shapes our personality but what sucks is when we are so absorbed with ourselves that we don’t think about how others will feel.
We tend to exploit others for our benefit, furthermore, we never admit that we’re wrong. The world is already a harsh place, so try being kind and help others. If you don’t want to suck in life, don’t be self-centered, be nice when you have to and always be honest.
10. We’re rude to restaurant servers.
Going to a restaurant and the food was not okay? You call the server and shout at them. This might be an indicator that you clearly suck if you’re rude to them. People who serve you at restaurants are not your servants. So, if you misbehave with them you’re clearly the worst person ever.
Taking orders, setting up tables and bringing in food is a difficult task and requires a lot of patience. Here’s how you can be a better person – try not to be rude, be polite even if you don’t like the food and lastly, always tip!
11. When we only reach out to our parents on Father’s or Mother’s day.
Father’s day or mother’s day isn’t necessarily the only time when we should talk to our parents. Our parents have played an important role in our lives by providing us with a lot of care and support.
The only way for us to thank them is by being there for them, therefore we probably suck if we only contact them on these two days or their birthdays as a formality and the rest of the year we avoid their calls. Parents don’t demand much from us, they only want to be cared for, and just want us to stay in touch with them. Is that too much to ask for? So, make use of this time, as they’re not getting any younger, and make amends!
12. When we want to change but we don’t try to change.
Most people want change in life but are we willing to make a change? It’s tough to leave our comfort zones, especially when we are used to certain things. People fear that if we change, something will go wrong. But, we definitely suck if we’re not making an effort to do anything about it.
So take the bigger risks in life – Change will not happen overnight, we have to make it happen. If required make a plan and work on it, only if you are determined will you be able to make change happen.
13. When we compare our lives with others lives on social media.
Social media is a great tool that connects us but there are downsides to it as well: it creates a false sense of insecurity among people, especially the younger generation. It feeds us with a false and exaggerated standard of how life should be – pretty, happy, and always perfect.
We really suck when we compare the airbrushed and filtered versions of others’ lives on social media with our lives. Not everything we see on social media is real, so we need to stop underestimating ourselves. Stop comparing yourself to a model or influencer, stop checking Facebook or Twitter all the time, and stop seeing the accomplishments of others whilst making yourself feel inferior.
14. When we all want to talk but never listen.
When we talk to someone and they listen, it’s our duty to listen to them when they’re talking. If you aren’t listening and always talking about your problems, then you’re probably a part of the problem.
We often talk over someone unknowingly but we can identify that behavior and try to work on it. When others go through problems, the most we can do is listen to others and support them.
15. When we give too much importance to the ones on social media and not to the ones with us.
We enjoy staying connected with everyone on social media, seeing their updates and pictures but sometimes excessive use of social media can be unhealthy for us. It really sucks when we stop interacting with our family or friends and spend most of our time on social media.
While engaging on Facebook or Instagram can be interesting it can lead to us being lonely, as we tend to lose interest in the real world. Our goal is to connect with our friends and families but not through social media always!
How to Stop Sucking At Life?
Identifying your strengths is easy but so difficult when you have to identify your weaknesses. Try and work on them, you might mess it up that’s okay. At least you’re trying.