Are you worried about how to get someone to like you but don’t want to devalue yourself? Perhaps you have a certain someone in mind or perhaps you are just worried in general, that someday you might meet someone and you won’t know what to do?
Getting someone to like you, without losing yourself, is actually easier than you think and something that you can manage once you know the keys.
What are they?
6 Keys To get someone to like you, without devaluing yourself
How can you expect someone to like you if you don’t like yourself?
The key to how to get someone to like you is to make sure that you are happy with who you are in the world. That you have done your work and are comfortable with yourself.
People who are damaged and unhappy tend to attract people who are also damaged and unhappy. Likewise, happy and confident people tend to attract happy and confident people.
So, have you done your work?
Are you happy with your career, your relationship with friends and family and your mental and physical health?
If any of things can use some improvement, I encourage you to get on them right away. Working on yourself is an excellent way to become happy and confident.
Fortunately, you don’t need to be all fixed before working to get someone to like you. If you have awareness about your issues and are actively working on them, it will show and you will attract someone who is also self-aware and evolving.
2. Be yourself always.
One of the biggest challenges in new relationships is that, because we want someone to like us, we aren’t always our true selves.
Instead, we put forward the best version of ourselves or even act like someone totally different. Our person falls for that person, not who we really are.
People who aren’t themselves in relationships are doomed to failure. Eventually our true selves come out and, when they do, they can scare your person away.
I can’t tell you how many of my clients who are going through a break-up say I wish things could go back to the way they were at the beginning. They can’t. And part of that is because at least one person wasn’t being themselves but instead being who they wanted to be.
And that, once gone, can never come back.
3. Be the best you.
We all have parts of ourselves that we really like and are proud of.
For me, I know that I am a really good question-asker. So, when I am getting to know someone, I ask a lot of questions. People like it when other people ask them questions so it often works well to get them to like me.
What is the best part of you? The part you like most. Have that part of you on display when you are working on getting someone to like you.
4. Don’t be a follower.
When you are wondering how to get someone to like you, one of the most important things to know is that it’s essential that you not be a follower.
What do I mean? I mean that it’s key that you don’t let your person call all of the shots in the relationship.
Relationships are meant be even. Sometimes you make the decision, sometimes he does. You are aware of each other’s wishes and desires and sometimes accommodate them but never do you let them walk all over you to get what they want.