Does a Happy Wife Equals A Happy Life? – This is what Science says

Does a Happy Wife Equals A Happy Life? A new study says marital bliss is strongly associated with whether or not the wife is happy.

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I believe it was a very wise woman by the name of Beyoncé who once said, “Who runs the world? Girls!” And, by all accounts, she was right. Not only do we, to use her words, “run this motha,” but apparently women are also in charge of running their relationships. That’s right, guys; if you think you’re the one with the upper hand in your marriage, then you need to check yourself before you wreck yourself because you’re not very correct in your assessment.

Does a Happy Wife Equals A Happy Life ? – This is what Science says

A new study by researchers at Rutgers University has found that marital bliss is strongly associated with whether or not the wife in the relationship is happy.

If she’s miserable, then her husband is miserable, and pretty much the whole relationship is just the pits. In contrast, if the husband is miserable then, well, the relationship suffers way less. Yes, ladies, we rule our marriages with an iron fist.

The research of 394 couples found that no only does the woman’s satisfaction play a big role in the happiness or misery of a marriage, but in general, men tended to be happier in their relationships than women. But when it came to overall life satisfaction, how the wives felt about the marriage directly contributed to whether her husband was happy or not.

The reason for this is that a happy wife is more willing to aim to please. As study author Deborah Carr explained, “If a wife is happy in her marriage, she will try hard to create a positive experience for her husband.

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So perhaps she listens to him more, she offers him more emotional support, or maybe she offers him more help with daily activities.” You know, that whole partnership thing that makes for a happy relationship.

In addition, when a woman is unhappy, she’s far more likely to talk about it, even be “confrontational” about it, notes Carr, whereas a man will “sit and seethe silently,” allowing the animosity to stew while his wife, in some cases, may not even be the wiser that there’s any issue at all. This was especially true for older couples from generations where talking about your feelings was pretty much unheard of.

What it comes down to is communication. Only in communicating feelings, as much as it might pain one to do so, can a marriage be truly successful.

It’s sad to think that one person’s perception of a marriage can have such a major effect on it, but since that is the case, married couples owe it to themselves to put all their cards on the table and not shy away from openness.

Of course, there are no guarantees in life, and sometimes a doomed marriage is simply doomed, but if you let communication be part of the equation, then you can hopefully hang in there for the long run. Let divorce be for the other guy.

Written by Amanda Chatel
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  1. Well I understand where it is coming from when you crunch statistical numbers, however there is more to it than that. I am one of the few who talks about problems and have been in the situation where relationships have become equally unhappy as if it were a female that had the problem.

    The difference is men have started to look at females as equals finally after so many centuries and woman due to this are starting to feel the effects of new empowerment. Plus my generation and younger (I am 25) were spoiled with a silver spoon to begin with. So this generation feels they deserve more than they put into it, and it is even more so on the females due to the fact that they are finally getting progress on equality and power.

    So my hypothesis is that some woman feel so entitled to power that they do not put themselves into the shoes of males who are suffering and making sacrifices for their relationships as their counter parts or simply refuse to because they feel they can get and deserve better in their personal relationships. But this is very one sided and no relationship will last this way forever. Eventually the female becomes unhappy because the male was unhappy with them as well. But males have and will do this to, so it is not select to one gender.

    We have equal power in a relationship, the difference is males sometimes are willing to tolerate more for the sake of true love and ethics while some females simply say I deserve more and want “my” perfect relationship ideal, “I” have this power and it is my life. In the mean time men are progressing and learning to say “we.” But we eventually becomes what about “me” if all they hear is “my and I.”

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