3 Things A Man Does Which Makes A Woman Feel Deeply Attached To Him

 September 11, 2018

3 Things A Man Does Which Makes A Woman Feel Deeply Attached To Him



She’ll never want to let you go.

If you want to know exactly how to make a girl fall in love with you, and what you need to do or create in order to allow a woman to feel capable of connecting with you on a meaningfully profound level, there are some important things you need to know about basic human needs that go a bit deeper than the typical dating advice you’ll find.

In 1958, American psychologist Dr. William Schutz introduced a theory he called Fundamental Interpersonal Relations Orientation™ (FIRO®).

Within this framework, he defined three basic needs most human beings share in regard to their relationships with others:

  • The need for control
  • The need for inclusion
  • The need for affection

Side note: as Schutz’s theory expanded and he developed assessment instruments over the decades, his tools were found to work well in coordination with the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI®), and licensing rights for it’s use are now owned by the same parent company.

But back to getting you the girl …

These three fundamental needs derive from the importance men and women alike naturally place on feeling significant, competent and likable in our interactions and relationships with others. We all want to be important, wanted and included, just as we all fear being ignored, humiliated and rejected.

 




Based on Schutz’s theory, here’s how to make a woman fall in love with you and feel deeply attached by meeting her three most basic needs.

1. Meet her need for control

If you really care for a woman and want her to feel deeply attached to you, it’s important that you give her a sense of control.

In order for her to open her heart, she needs to feel safe enough trusting you.

One way to establish this trust is by making sure she always knows when she’ll see you or hear from you next.

Rather than leaving her out there hanging, worrying about when you’ll call, text or make plans to see her again, maintain clear communication so she knows what to expect. This lets her know she is an important person in your life, which means you also fulfill her need to feeling significant.

For instance, if you end a date by saying you’ll call her tomorrow, it’s extremely important that you following through on that promise.

When you do, you act in integrity with who you are, and you make her feel seen and appreciated.

If you don’t, you’ve broken a promise. As a result, her unconscious fear of being ignored is likely to be triggered, which means she will begin to distrust you. Over time, your repeated broken promises will cause her to lose respect for you.

There is a powerful connection between feeling you have a measure of control and feeling safe. If you don’t make a woman feel safe with you, you will likely lose her.

 

2. Meet her need for inclusion

When you share your life and circumstances with her, you bring her closer to you by making her feel included. The more you share about yourself, the more she feels connected to who you are.




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