Are you irked by your partner’s annoying habit or trait? Learn this one trick that can help you, deal with it in a healthier way.
If you think about it, people are always ending relationships because something about their partner is making them unhappy. A person might break up with their partner, for example, because they’re tired of dealing with:
- Something about the way they look
- Habitual behaviors that are annoying
- The kind of people they spend time with
- Aspects of how they behave
If somebody can no longer deal with issues like these with their significant other, they’re likely to end the relationship.
But hold on a minute…
You are never going to find a perfect partner that doesn’t have any habits, friends or other characteristics that don’t annoy you. No one is that perfect.
So, the success of any relationship depends on how well you handle the things about your partner that you don’t like very much. This is what I want to show you how to do by learning a simple trick to communicating better with your partner.
How Should We Deal With These Differences?
Hollywood rom-com lure us into the unrealistic expectation that all we have to do is find the perfect partner and live happily ever after with them in perfect compatibility.
This expectation can lead us to believe that we never have to communicate to our partner that something about them doesn’t make us happy. Surely our perfect mate would just know this instinctively without being told!
And that’s a pretty unhealthy way to see your relationship.
In the real world, you really have to air your grievances when something about your partner bothers you. And remember that it works both ways. When your partner is unhappy with something about you, you’re better off if they tell you about it openly.
Here’s How It Works
Being assertive can help keep your relationship together. Relationships often fail precisely because at least one of the partners is afraid to articulate their own wishes and needs clearly and assertively.
This ends up causing a LOT of frustration, which is just one of the many silent killers in relationships.
When something continues to bother you for a long time and you do nothing to address it, your frustration is going to build. After a certain point, you feel like it would be easier to just get out than to go back and deal with the issues that lead to your current levels of frustration.
That’s why so many breakups seemingly come out of nowhere when in actuality the problem has been building behind the scenes for a long time without being addressed. You need to avoid contempt, resentment, and frustration building up like this.
Asserting Yourself Can Prevent Frustration
If the frustrated partner in this relationship had been more assertive and open about their grievances, this out-of-the-blue breakup probably needn’t have happened at all.
Airing grievances is a kind of safety valve that allows you to release pent-up frustrations about your partner before they build and cause problems. Talking about differences in a healthy way can help you to resolve them.