12 Red Flags Indicating You’re In A Rebound Relationship


, ,
Warning Signs Of A Rebound Relationship: Are You In One?

Are you in a rebound relationship? Is your partner with you only to numb the pain from their last break-up? In most cases, rebound relationships don’t last long as it is mainly a way to get over an ex-partner.

If you are the rebound, then it can be a roller coaster ride for you that won’t end well for anyone. 

If you are in rebound relationship, it will only bring you more pain.

So, you think you finally met this amazing person, but something just doesn’t feel right.

Your new love seems to have come out of nowhere, and they appear eager, almost anxious, to be in a relationship with you. However, instead of being happy and excited, you feel a little unsettled.

You used to dream about having this type of whirlwind relationship, but silently you’re questioning your partner’s motives because the relationship is progressing at an accelerated speed.

Although things are traveling in the fast lane, you realize you don’t know much about your partner’s past. You’ve never met their friends or family, you haven’t discussed each other’s visions for the future and you don’ talk about the direction this relationship is headed in.

Read 5 Signs You Are Dating A Rebounder

You start to wonder — are you in a rebound relationship?

Unfortunately, when people are rebounding from a previous relationship, they do so to escape negative feelings of pain and sadness associated with the loss of no longer being in the relationship.

Jumping into a new relationship immediately after the previous relationship just ended is typically done to avoid being alone or facing the reasons why the relationship ended.

Rebounding into something new without mourning and processing the loss of the previous partners can limit your opportunities to learn and grow from the relationship.

it wasn't the break up that hurt me.
12 Red Flags Indicating You’re In A Rebound Relationship

When a relationship ends, it is important to take time to process what went on, as well as to identify your personal role in the relationship’s breakdown.

Rebounders may seem to fall very hard, very fast for someone new. Their failure to learn from their role in the decline and subsequent breakdown of past relationships makes it more likely they’ll enter into a new one with the same problematic behaviors and excessive baggage.

Read 10 Ways To Go Through A Breakup Without Feeling Miserable

Here are 12 warning signs of a rebound relationship to watch for:

signs of a rebound relationship info
12 Red Flags Indicating You’re In A Rebound Relationship

1. The time between you or your partner’s previous relationship is very short.

2. You haven’t met your partner’s friends or family.

3. You don’t discuss your future with one another.

4. You or your partner monitors your ex on social media.

5. You or your partner still have old messages (texts, voicemail, pictures, etc.) from an ex.

6. You or your partner have rushed into the relationship to avoid feeling incomplete.

7. You enter the relationship quickly, despite knowing they aren’t “relationship material”.

8. Your new partner appears overly affectionate with you whenever they run into their ex.

9. Trying to talk about past relationships seems particularly painful, like the equivalent of pulling teeth.

10. You try talking to your partner about their worldview, but they stay clear of heavy subjects, preferring to talk about superficial topics.

11. You are sexual, but not intimate. You don’t hold, embrace, or touch other than during sex.

12. You or your partner participate in endless, indiscriminate flirting. It doesn’t matter who the person is. You or they select the first fish to grab the bait.

Breakups are never easy, but when they happen it’s important to learn from them and take the opportunity to get to know yourself again. It’s a chance to explore what has changed about you and what you are looking for in your next relationship.

Read 3 Subconscious Reasons Why We Fear Intimacy In Relationships

Notably, being alone does not mean you have to be lonely.

being alone
12 Red Flags Indicating You’re In A Rebound Relationship

Sometimes we use the words alone and lonely interchangeably, making it difficult to determine how we truly feel about the dissolution of a romantic relationship.

It’s also important to note you can be lonely in a relationship, especially, if the relationship is unhealthy or has run its course.

Rebounding from one relationship to the next may offer a temporary distraction from negative feelings, but like most things of that nature, you will soon have to face the issues that ended your relationship, as well as the negative feelings you attempted to avoid by jumping into a new one.

Be kind to yourself and the new person you are interested in pursuing by taking time to feel and experience the breakup of your previous relationship so you can give to your new relationship unselfishly, honestly and passionately.

Could you relate with the 12 warning signs of a rebound relationship? Leave a comment below.

Written By Dr. Tarra Bates-Duford
Originally Appeared On Your Tango
Republished with permission
Signs That You Are The Rebound pin
Rebound Relationship Signs
signs of a rebound relationship pin
Rebound Relationship Signs
rebound relationship
12 Red Flags Indicating You’re In A Rebound Relationship

— Share —

— About the Author —

Leave a Reply

Up Next

The Pebbling Love Language: Inspired By Penguins To Transform Relationships

What Is Pebbling Love language? Tips To Spark Love

For some people love doesn’t mean big actions and expensive presents, but rather small things matter the most to them. So here’s pebbling love language – inspired by penguins. Let’s find out if you have this language of love without even knowing it.

What Is Pebbling Love language?

To attract a partner, male Gentoo penguins offer female penguins little stones or pebbles, to help build their nests.

Although humans don’t exchange rocks as a token of love, but the idea of penguin pebbling love language operates on the same basic principle of making someo

Up Next

Can TikTok’s ‘Meeting Someone Twice Theory’ Really Lead To Love?

Meeting Someone Twice Theory: Best Examples

Has a person ever crossed your path and then reappeared at another point in your life, causing you to feel like you have some kind of unexplainable bond with them? According to the newest idea from TikTok, Meeting Someone Twice Theory – is a meaningful thought that says love often needs a second chance.

So let’s learn how the universe might be making these things happen on purpose.

What Is The Meeting Someone Twice Theory?

You meet someone in passing at a coffee shop, party or on the street. You exchange fleeting pleasantries, maybe share a laugh or a conversation, and then life goes on as usual.

But then, weeks or months or years later, you cross paths again and th

Up Next

How To Forgive A Cheater And Move Forward: A Relationship Guide

How To Forgive A Cheater And Move On: A Relationship Guide

Trying to forgive a cheater can be one of the toughest challenges in a relationship, but it’s not impossible. Here’s a guide to help you heal your heart and move forward with confidence, grace and peace.

Did you know that around forty percent of unmarried relationships and twenty-five percent of marriages have at least one instance of infidelity?

If your partner has cheated on you, you’re not alone. Betrayal can be one of the most painful experiences in a relationship.

But it’s important to remember that forgiveness is not about excusing the behavior or forgetting what happened. It’s about letting go of the hurt and anger so that you can move forward.

In this guide, you will learn practical steps for how to forgive a cheater, inc

Up Next

7 Common Trauma Beliefs Preventing You From Finding Love

Common Trauma Beliefs Preventing You From Finding Love

Are you still single, even after putting in a lot of effort to find love? The answer might lie in your trauma beliefs. Yes, you heard me right. Trauma beliefs are the deep-seated, often subconscious notions formed from past painful experiences that shape how you see yourself and relationships, in general.

Beliefs caused by trauma can act as invisible barriers, keeping you from finding and maintaining love. If you are tired of feeling stuck in the same old patterns, it’s time to dig into these 7 trauma beliefs that might be sabotaging your love life.

So, are you ready to know all the ways trauma is keeping you single? Come on, let’s find out together.


Up Next

3 Relationship Check In Questions On Love, According To A Psychologist

Relationship Check In Questions For Couples In Love

It’s common for us to push relationships down our list of priorities when we get busy. We think we’ll make up for lost time later, assuming everything will be fine. But what if everything isn’t fine? Below are 3 crucial relationship check in questions for couples to make life simpler!

According to a recent publication of Current Issues in Personality Psychology, discussions were shown to be an effective strategy for solving disagreements and improving the quality of relationships.

So, a monthly relationship relationship check in questions can help keep your love boat afloat. Once a month, you and your partner can sit across from each other and talk. It isn’t about pointing fingers or finding fault; it’s about feeding the connection

Up Next

8 Clear Signs Someone Cares About You (Even If They Don’t Always Express It)

Unmistakable Signs Someone Cares About You

Are you confused about whether they genuinely care about you? Well, this article will take you through 8 unmistakable signs someone cares about you deeply, even though they do not always express it.

There is an ancient saying that actions speak louder than words. An expression like that tends to stick around for a reason, and this one does make a lot of sense. In our increasingly chaotic and noisy world, it’s easy to forget that some people struggle to verbalize their feelings. But remember, still waters run deep.

Just because someone struggles to express their feelings in words doesn’t mean they don’t care about you. Actually, the real clues are buried within their actions. Look out for these telltale signs to know if someone cares about you genuinely:

Up Next

Codependence and Interdependence: What Truly Sets Them Apart?

Codependence and Interdependence: What Truly Sets Them Apart?

The question ‘What is the difference between codependence and interdependence?’ In reality, it asks whether a relationship is dysfunctional or healthy. Well, in today’s Best Day Blog, I will be taking you through the differences between the two and how to recover from codependency.

Dysfunctional Relationships

I talk a lot about what dysfunctional relationships can look like, but how do you develop a healthy relationship, and what does a healthy one look like?

Unfortunately, the idea of relationships we all grow up with from movies and TV is unhealthy. The relationships shown are romanticized