5. Ego comes before love.
Relationships are always full of ups and downs, but when love reigns supreme, any battle can be won and any obstacle can be overcome. When you are with the right man, you will be able to handle every situation that you will face. But if you are with a man who acts as he loves you, but actually doesn’t, then he will always put his ego before you and the relationship.
Letting go of ego is essential for any relationship. If being always right matters more to your partner, then there is something wrong with the relationship. If all he cares about is proving his point, more than your happiness, then he will never be able to give you the respect you truly deserve.
If a person can let go of their ego and look at the bigger picture, just for you, there is no other person more right for you than this one.
6. Breakups keep on happening.
This is one of the biggest signs that he’s not in love with you. If he keeps on breaking up with you, every time there is an argument or a fight, then he is not at all serious about you; he is just looking for a way out of the relationship. The right man will never give up on you, just because you had an argument. He will always try to resolve things to the best of his abilities.
When a man considers you as a convenience, he will break up with you every minute, disappear for a few days with zero contact, and then come back crawling to you and expect to be taken back without any questions. He knows very well how much you love him, and he will keep on using that to his advantage.
He believes that it’s better to keep you on the side for some regular sex, without any of the commitment.
7. Talking about the future is a huge no-no.
When your man refuses to talk about the future with you, and always avoids it whenever you bring it up, know that he is not the one for you. Real love means planning a future together, instead of running away from it. Real love means wanting to spend your lives together with each other. If this is not happening, then you are with the wrong person.
Accept the fact that he is not serious about you, when all he ever does is dodge questions about moving in together, or getting married. You deserve someone who will want to give you the world, and someone who can’t wait to be with you forever.
8. Everything happens according to him.
There are always two people in a relationship, not one. Then why does it feel like only he matters, and his needs, and wants matter? When everything happens according to his whims and fancies, and your needs are never considered, maybe it’s time to pack up your bags and leave. If your partner cannot put you first sometimes, then he is not the one for you.
Every date, every plan, every phone call, every conversation, every text – everything must happen when HE wants it to happen. You need to exist according to his schedule, but he will never do the same for you. You will always be waiting for him to call you or ask you out, but when you want to make plans with him, he just disappears.
It’s as if he has this whole other life, but you are not a part of it. You are simply an afterthought.
9. Being hot and cold is his signature move.
When a man is exploiting you, and taking advantage of you, the one thing he always does is keep on manipulating you. One day he will be this perfect man who makes you feel like the most loved woman on the face of the earth and will go out of his way to make you happy. But, the very next day he will behave as if he could not even care less about you.
Even if he apologizes to you for his behavior, chances are he is only doing it because he needs something from you. He is simply using your feelings to do what he wants to do, without having to be accountable to you. He will keep on doing the same thing over and over again because he knows that you will always forgive him.
This hot and cold attitude will just end up breaking your heart and spirit further.