2. Don’t Get Involved In People’s Dramas.
When we’re pulled into the lives of others, we can easily lose sight of our own lives. To put it very simply, if you think and talk about other people’s lives, then you call into your life THEIR energy. This is the same energy that has created the drama in their lives in the first place.
So guess what does it do with you? Yes, it creates the same drama in your life.
Have you ever noticed that when you were too involved in the life of someone else that you began to experience similar problems?
This doesn’t make your relationship with them stronger (which is what we try unconsciously to do), it just means that you have their energy in your life that is causing the havoc.
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt
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3. Support Them Instead Of Trying To Fix Them.
Each of us has to experience different lessons to learn and grow at various levels.
If you fix someone’s problem, then you deprive them of their lesson.
Which only means that they’ll have to create the same problematic situation so they can finally learn what they’re expected to learn. You can choose to support them instead by encouraging them or telling them where they can find information or help they need.
You can help them to see why they’re in such a situation but don’t try to solve it instead of them. Of course, another situation is when they specifically ask you to help them. Then you have permission to intervene in their life.
4. Help Them To Regain Faith In Themselves.
It’s of much greater service if you tell them that they have their own guidance system and that they can trust it. They may lack the confidence about being able to help themselves and if you’d treat them like a small kid and taking off their burdens how would they learn their value?
I know that it’s sometimes difficult, but the true loving response isn’t to go and save them but lovingly remind them of their own strengths.
Here’s a helpful video that you may find interesting:
Written by Sylvia Salow Originally appeared in Sylvia Salow