Loving You Is Killing Me So This Is Goodbye – Breakup Quotes

Love-Hate

I don’t hate you, I love you. But loving you is killing me. So this is goodbye even if I don’t want it to be.

Loving you is killing me. And I don’t mean that in some overly dramatic, movie-script kind of way—I mean it in the quiet, everyday ache that shows up in my chest, in my tired eyes, in the way I second-guess myself constantly now.

I don’t hate you. Actually, I love you more than I ever planned to. But somehow, that love has started to feel more like a slow unraveling than a safe place to land.

When you love someone, you hope it will feel like coming home. But what happens when home starts feeling like a battlefield? When conversations leave you bruised, when silence feels like punishment, and when your heart feels more confused than cared for?

That’s where I am now—torn between the intensity of my love for you and the reality that loving you is slowly tearing me apart.

I know people like to say “love conquers all,” but that’s not always true. Love shouldn’t feel like survival. It shouldn’t require sacrificing my peace, my joy, or my sense of self. It shouldn’t leave me questioning my worth or begging for crumbs of attention.

Love isn’t meant to be an endurance test, and yet, here I am—exhausted from trying to hold something together that’s already slipping through my fingers.

This is goodbye.

Not because I want it to be. Not because I stopped caring. But because staying is starting to cost me parts of myself I can’t afford to lose. I need to choose me, even if it breaks my heart to walk away from you.

Even if I replay every memory in my mind and wonder if I could’ve done more, tried harder, held on longer.

I don’t hate you. I genuinely wish I could. It would make this easier. But I know hate isn’t the opposite of love—indifference is. And I’m nowhere near indifferent.

I still love you deeply, but I’ve learned that sometimes love alone isn’t enough. Sometimes, love hurts more than it heals.

Related: Thich Nhat Hanh on The Art Of Letting Go

You see, there’s a kind of love that fills you up, that nurtures and supports and grows with you.

And then there’s a love that depletes you, that leaves you constantly trying to prove your worth, that makes you shrink yourself just to keep the peace. Sadly, ours has become the latter.

I’m not walking away because I’ve stopped loving you. I’m walking away because I finally started loving myself. And that’s something I’ve neglected for far too long. I’ve compromised, I’ve forgiven things I shouldn’t have, I’ve stayed in the name of hope—but now, I’m choosing healing.

I’m choosing space. I’m choosing freedom from the emotional tug-of-war that’s left me breathless and bruised.

This is goodbye, even if it doesn’t feel like closure yet. Maybe I’ll never get closure. Maybe the only closure I need is the quiet knowing that I finally did what was best for me.

Loving you is killing me—but I’m still here. Still breathing. And I know I’ll be okay. Someday, this pain will fade. I’ll stop replaying the good times and start remembering the hard ones too. I’ll find peace in my own space. I’ll heal.

So no, I don’t hate you. But I can’t keep loving you in a way that’s destroying me. This is goodbye. And even though it hurts—I’m finally free.

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