What are the three magic questions you can ask your partner to deepen your relationship and make sure that it stands the test of time? These questions help couples evaluate their relationships and compatibility. A reflection check once in a while can strengthen your relationship and sparks a deeper connection than ever before.
The more you learn about each other, the more you develop an honest relationship.
One of the worst things that we do in our intimate relationships is to make assumptions.
We assume that our partners receive love in the same manner that we do.
We assume that our partners expect the same things from marriage.
We assume that our partner defines monogamy the same as we do.
The assumptions are endless.
Get in the habit of asking the three following questions and I promise that you will pull the rug out from underneath the vast majority of your emotional suffering in your relationships.
1. What Are You Looking For From A Relationship?
So much of the pain that you may have experienced in your dating life could have been from going after someone who was incompatible with you. Whether we realized it or not at the time, we often end up in relationships with people that do not have any long-term potential for what we’re looking for.
Get clear on what you’re looking for in a romantic partner and then have the courage to screen for these things early on in the dating process.
If you know that something is important to you, you are fully within your right to ask your potential significant other about this information outright. Do you want kids? Do you want a partner who is kind and compassionate? Do you want to date someone who has a similar style of intelligence like you? Let it be known.
You can ask someone you are dating, even on the first date, “What are you looking for from a relationship?” By getting clear on this from the outset, you both save yourselves time if you discover that you’re looking for different things.
So ask this question early on in the dating process.
2. How Can I Love You The Best?
Whether you ask this question on your tenth date, or after two years or fifty years of partnership is irrelevant.
Get absolutely clear on how it is that your partner wants you to love them.
Some people need more time to themselves while others need as much quality time and physical connection as possible. Some people desire deeply stimulating conversations while others would rather hold hands while sitting in silence.
What registers as love to you doesn’t necessarily register as love to your partner.