Here’s why girls with best hearts get into toxic relationships.
It always seems the best kindest people I know end up in these relationships with these people who don’t deserve all they have to offer.
I find myself wondering both about them and myself. Why do we choose these types of people? Why is this recurring theme so dominate in our lives? Different person.
The same type of person. Same attraction. The same cycle we can’t seem to get ourselves out of. Same endings that crush us. And we think it’s our fault or it’s us to blame and maybe it is. Maybe we have to be more cautious. Use our head instead of our heart. But that’s never easy for people like us.
They say it’s weak people who end up in toxic relationships but I believe these people have a strength that goes unrecognized and unappreciated.
But it’s these people who end up changing others through being good and kind.
The one that leaves mark on even the cruelest and undeserving hearts.
1. They see the good in everyone.
There is something about people with good hearts, it isn’t that they are blind or naive to someone’s flaws.
They see it clear as day but they make a deliberate choice to channel their energy into someone’s best qualities.
While this is a good trait to have it also is their greatest flaw because they will ignore every red flag thrown their way.
2. They give too many chances.
All you need to say when you mess up is I’m sorry. That’s it for them. They move completely forward giving you another shot.
This becomes a problem when the toxic person knows they can say and do whatever and anyone with a good heart will always welcome you with open arms.
There are some people who don’t deserve even two chances to burn you then they go and give them ten only to get hurt every time.
3. They never treat someone the way they are treated.
They know what it’s like to be treated badly and they will never deliberately make the choice to hurt someone. They will never give someone a taste of their own medicine.
They don’t believe in hurting anyone even if the person hurts them.
They truly believe in goodness.
4. They forgive and forget easily.
They really do have an ability to just forget even the worst moments. Their friends have to remind them, remember this person did this, that, and another thing.
The truth is no matter how many times they get hurt by someone they don’t hold onto pain. They let it go carelessly and easily.
They don’t fear wearing their heart on their sleeve.
They will pour their hearts out to people who don’t deserve their love. Their ability to love deeply knows no bounds. They just never run out of love to give people.
Loving hard comes very naturally to them and they do it fearlessly. What is hard about being like this is they give other people the love they should be giving themselves.
5. They give more than they get.
They don’t expect anything of anyone yet they’ll give the shirt on their back to someone who might not even deserve it. They will constantly go out of their way and go the extra mile for the people they care about.
The problem arises in toxic relationships when people take advantage of it. They go from appreciating it to expecting it then getting mad when the person doesn’t keep up that standard.
What it teaches is the constant need to always try to win someone over through gestures even when it’s not reciprocated and that’s when it becomes toxic.
6. They don’t judge someone’s mistakes.
They are so accepting of everyone and everything. Tell them the worst thing you’ve ever done or the worst thing that has ever happened to you and I promise they will accept and teach you how to.
They lack judgment because they know even they make mistakes and have done things they aren’t proud of.
The problem is when a toxic person doesn’t learn from their mistakes and the person with a good heart is the one that gets hurt because of it.