What Your Anxiety Can Teach You About Life

what your anxiety can teach you about life

Things Your anxiety teaches you about life – Anxiety feels terrible. It feels paralyzing, frustrating, annoying and degrading. It can ruin your life and your relationships. But there are some valuable things that can be learned in this pit of darkness. Anxiety protects us and keeps us safe. And if you can realize it, anxiety teaches you the most important things in life.

“Something in you dies when you bear the unbearable. And it is only in that dark night of the soul that you are prepared to see as God sees and to love as God loves.” – Ram Dass

No one likes feeling anxious. Yet, anxiety is a great teacher, if we allow it to be. Here are 3 lessons I’m learning from my own anxiety: how to own it, use it and transform it.

3 Lessons Your Anxiety Can Teach You About Life

1. How to own it

Anxiety feels like a personal weakness. So, more often than not, most of us would try to pretend to look “just fine”, or distract our mind endlessly with work (at least that makes us feel busy and important!), OR doing house chores (our home looks sparkling clean!), OR chatting with friends (at least we look like friendly people!), OR hoarding (yay, we got lots of stuff!), OR gaming and other forms of entertainment (c’mon, what’s wrong with having some fun, right?).

Here’s the thing: Anxiety is a NORMAL emotion. And just like joy, sadness, and anger, emotions are present to tell us something about ourselves. If I deny or try to conceal it, I will probably delay the process of getting to know myself.

Like painting, you’ve just got to paint what it is for you, here and now. Even if you have to paint the same thing again and again, the compulsion itself is part of the process of getting in touch with the anxiety that NEEDS to manifest itself. The faster we cooperate with the inner urges, the sooner we get acquainted with the emotions that are crying for attention, the quicker we get to reconcile with our true self — the self that is dying to say hello to you…

“Anxiety is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained.” – Arthur Somers Roche

2. How to use it

I get creative blocks when I am overridden with anxieties. That’s when anxiety becomes downright useless and paralyzing to me. Hence, I learn that if I truly want to make good use of my anxiety to help myself, I have to know what anxiety is about and believe in its power to help me.

Anxiety is, put simply, the emotional intelligence to self-protect from the actual and potential risk of harm. Anxiety serves to place the self in a humble vulnerable state, in which we recognize that we do not and cannot control the outcome, and we can expose ourselves to injury, failure, ridicule, and rejection.

How does that make anxiety useful or even powerful then?

The key is to look beyond the noisy, distracting anxiety. Behind the façade of anxiety is a person who deeply cares. If we focus on the person’s anxiety, we are either forcing them to hide even more out of shame or enabling them to remain helpless and dependent by externalizing their problems.

However, if we can affirm the PERSON behind the anxiety who deeply cares, we are drawing out internal gems and treasures that the person might have overlooked or distrusted. And once you see the weight of your cause (eg. raising a strong-willed child, raising the standards of care in a working system, fighting to keep your marriage alive, fighting to leave home or your comfort zone, etc.), hopefully you start to have a little more respect, a little more compassion for the human that you are, trying to take on a divine mission that you instinctively feel called to take on.

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