5. You may think finding happiness again will be difficult.
It won’t be, I promise. After any breakup, we all go through darker times where it may be difficult to imagine seeing a brighter road ahead. With this type of emotionally abusive relationship, you may even tell yourself you won’t be able to find happiness without this person. This is not true whatsoever.
All of the unthinkable things they said – a part of you is still tempted to ignore it and stay with them because that’d be easier than leaving and starting over. But easy is hardly ever the right choice, and instant gratification does not usually work out in the long run.
Never stay in an emotionally abusive relationship because you think there are no other alternatives, or you think it’ll be easier to stay. The truth is, it will sure as hell be difficult, but in situations like this, we must take the difficult path in order to set ourselves up for a happier future.
I know it hurts now, but that will pass, I guarantee you that. So – use this time after the breakup to do YOU. Surround yourself with friends and family, start traveling more, go somewhere you’ve never been before, start a new hobby. Just enjoy life.
6. You’ll never settle for anything less than what you deserve.
It is certainly true when they say there is plenty of fish in the sea because there are. There is an entire world of humans out there! Once you’re ready, you’ll start dating again and this time around – you’ll know exactly what you want in your next relationship.
You can let one emotionally abusive relationship consume you, OR you can simply learn a hell of a lot from it. You can realize your self-worth, and come to understand that you are better than any word vomit (as I often liked to call it) that was ever said to you.
You will learn what you do deserve in this life, and know to never settle for anything less. You become strong and one day down the road, you will find that person who respects you and loves you and could never, ever, even imagine saying those things to you.
Never settle, you deserve only the best. You have been through more than enough. And remember to take this time to breathe, look ahead to the future, leave the past behind, and start living a healthy life.
It will all get better in time, and eventually, you will ask yourself why you stayed so long, and you will be forever grateful that you had the strength to walk away.
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Written by Nikki Zarrella
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
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