Do you prioritize your needs? Or do you put it on hold for the happiness of your closed ones? Life is too short to delay things that can make your life better. We forget to value our own happiness and end up in misery. It’s time to choose yourself and start living!
How to choose yourself? Here are 30 things you should start doing for yourself.
1. Start taking responsibility for your life
Taking responsibility for your life means, being accountable for your own thoughts, deeds, feelings, and words. Accept your mistakes and decisions and work towards improvement. Instead of blaming and complaining, take accountability for your own life and welfare.
Ask yourself, “What’s my role? What can I learn from this mistake?”. Avoid taking things personally or depending on people for happiness. Remember, It’s not the job of your parents and friends to make you happy. By being accountable you can accept a cluster of challenges and figure out how to overcome the obstacles, according to a study published in the journal of Distributive Justice. Else you’ll end up being unhappy and sad.
2. Start surrounding yourself with the right people
These are the people who boost your intellectual growth and inspire you to become what you want. They are the ones with whom you spent quality time, who encourage and love you unconditionally. Spend time with people who can be your best friend and mentor. They will help you move on even in the toughest times. And empower you to achieve your personal and professional goals. Bid farewell to pessimistic nellies who only bring you down focusing on your imperfections.
3. Start nurturing your closed relationships
Robert Waldinger conducted the Harvard Study of Adult Development for over 80 years to find out things that make us happier and healthier. The message from the results is startling- “good relationships keep us happier and healthier”.
Money, fame, and the number of friends or relationships you had are not important.
According to Waldinger, it’s about how healthy and strong your relationship is with your closed ones. People who are well-connected to family members, friends, neighbors, and community are physically and mentally happy. Love people, whom you can count on during adversity. Nurture your relationships with them by doing something new like long walks or get-togethers.
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4. Start living in the present
Ranting about losses and worrying about the future brings you stress and anxiety. Right now is a miracle. Living in the present is the key to becoming happier and healthier. Learn to experience life as it’s happening. It will keep you, connected to yourself and everything around you. Being present-minded enhances your ability to cope with fear, anxiety, and anger according to a study published in the Human Kinetics Journal.
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5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly
Stop being someone who is not the real you. Choose yourself! Create your best version. It’s you with whom you have to live lifelong. Realize that you’re unique in every way and be proud of yourself. You can turn your ideas, strengths, and tiny sparks into flames of achievement. Instead of being hard on yourself. Practise self-compassion! According to a study published in the journal of self and identity, self-compassion boosts your happiness and reduces stress. Because self-compassion stops you from procrastinating things.
6. Start prioritizing your own happiness
Happiness doesn’t simply come to us. Being happy is a choice that you make and you have to keep making this choice every day. Thinking of your needs, values, and things that bring you joy will elevate you. If you don’t respect or value yourself, then you’re sabotaging yourself. Taking care of yourself doesn’t mean you stop caring for others. Prioritizing yourself is an unselfish art! If you are happy, you’ll be far more capable of making others happy.
7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you
“Experience is a hard teacher because she gives the test first, the lesson afterwards.” -Vernon Law.
It’s okay to make mistakes as long as you get up and fight. Mistakes are a getaway to polish yourself, learn, grow, try harder. Mistakes make you retrospect and introspect risks and opportunities. And find a way to reach your destination. The long roads of failure may end with a significant achievement. You never know. One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your grand success yet.
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8. Start being more polite to yourself
Treat yourself with kindness and care! Others treat you the way you treat yourself. Many times we hate and criticize ourselves. But, would you enjoy it if your near and dear ones do that to you regularly? The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others. Love and respect yourself, and others will do the same.
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9. Start enjoying the things you already have
Most of us think that we can enjoy life only if all our wishes are fulfilled. But, it’s a never-ending cycle. When one wish is fulfilled, the other one crops up. Even if you reach a certain level, there is always someone doing better than you. So, be content with what you have. Breathe deeply, enjoy things in your life, and appreciate where you are. It will empower you to be the best.
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10. Start creating your own happiness
If you seek happiness, you’ll always find it. Be happy with who you are now. Choose yourself and the way you are. Find something that will make you happy and do it every day. Feel good about yourself every day and smile. Inspire yourself with positive thinking. Waiting for others to make you happy is a sure shot recipe for darkness, fear, and pain. Start taking responsibility for your own happiness.
11. Start believing in your ideas and dreams
Believe in yourself and take chance. Make the right thing happen now, instead of waiting for the right time to come. Doing something is better than nothing. So, just go for it with 100% determination, patience, and inspiration. Nourish yourself with passion. Either you succeed or you learn something.
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12. Start embracing new relationships
Enter new relationships with people who love you, admire you and accept you the way you are. Choose peers who are reliable, honest and support you to become the person you want to be. Embrace new relationships for the right reasons. There is no point sticking around people who can’t reciprocate your kindness and commitment. And pay attention to what people do, because a person’s actions are much more important than their words.
13. Start believing that you’re ready to go ahead
Look for possibilities and opportunities and think you’re ready for the next step. Be logical and set realistic goals. Accept the challenges positively. Treat obstacles as gifts that make you stronger. Choose yourself by believing that you are ready.
14. Start competing against an earlier version of yourself
Always compare yourself with who you were yesterday. But, do not engage in the rat race. Comparing your life with other people ahead of you is a futile attempt. It will only lead you to frustration, misery, and depression. In doing so you will end up feeling more vulnerable. Choose yourself! Be inspired by others, appreciate others, and learn from others. Then break your own personal records and surprise the world with your achievements.
15. Start giving chance
Meet new people, make new relationships and seek new experiences. Your life cannot stop just because some old relationships have broken or given you bitter experiences. Trust yourself and others. Positive affirmations like, “It may turn out to be the best” will help you stay positive even in uncertain situations. You never know, the stranger you met the other day may just change your life forever. So, start giving new people a chance.
16. Start cheering for other people’s victories
Start appreciating all the little, good things in your life. If you like someone, don’t hesitate to tell them. Appreciation may lead you to– productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. Be happy for people achieving their dreams and goals. Cheer for their triumphs and share happiness. Be thankful for your own beautiful life and strive to make it better each day. Sooner or later you’ll see amazing things coming your way.
17. Start forgiving yourself and others
“To err is human; to forgive, divine.” Alexander Pope
We all make mistakes and bad decisions that give us pain. But, if you want to be happy, you have to let go of the resentment. Release your burden by forgiving yourself. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Also, forgive your enemy and it will boost your self-healing. Balance trust and wisdom.
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18. Start looking for the silver lining in tough situations
Hope never dies! So, always have faith in yourself even when things are hard. Be bold, be strong and always keep going with an iron-daunted spirit. Never forget your accomplishments! When feeling lost, seek guidance and plant your feet in the right direction again.
19. Start helping others
Never miss an opportunity to help people. Love people and care about them. Guide others to make their life better. Let love and kindness be the way of your life. It’ll help you build the castle of peace. Keep doing it every day and it will make the world better and your life too.
20. Start listening to your own inner voice
While the mind is limited intuition is not according to Madeleine L’Engle. So, when you’re feeling a pit in your stomach, listen to your inner voice. It will lead you to the truth and help you solve the problem with ease. Follow your intuitions to make better and faster decisions. Eventually, you will lead a successful, happy and fulfilled life.
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21. Start taking short breaks
Take short breaks when busiest and meditate for increased insight and inner peace. Or just pause and take a deep breath. Place your hand on your heart and ask what it needs from you right now. It will help you regain your sanity and realign your actions with your goals. Create rituals like prayer or anything to get clear on your values in life. This process will help you choose yourself in every situation.
22. Start noticing the beauty of small moments
Little moments in life have the power to bring you deep contentment. Start focusing on these little things and one day you’ll realize that they were the big things. Big things like buying home or marriage may happen sooner or later.
But, little things happen every day. It can be a morning walk on the beach, a beautiful flower blossoming in your garden, laughter sessions with your best buddy, writing a blog, cooking perfect Italian pasta, appreciation at work and so on. Enjoying these small pleasures can bring abundant happiness and improve the quality of your life.
23. Start accepting things even when imperfect
Life is never perfect! Imperfections are a must. They drive us to become perfect. But, it’s better to appreciate things even when they are less than perfect. Because they are beautiful in their own way and offer us new opportunities. It can be in the form of traveling to new places or learn something valuable in life. Everything happens for a reason! It wasn’t those imperfections in the past, you wouldn’t have been the best version today.
24. Start working on your dreams
Prioritize your goals and dreams and move towards them every single day. Every single step counts, so just do something, anything to make it happen. Wishful thinking never yields desired results. But by working hard and consistently, you can find your way forward in everything. Seek a mentor to align your purpose with momentum. By being with people who support and believe in your dreams, you can surmount any hardships.
25. Start being true to yourself
Whether you are happy or hurting, be more open to yourself. Talk to people in close relationship with you and share your feelings. Be true to yourself and you ill surely feel more relaxed and peaceful.
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26. Start facing life’s challenges
Life is not a bed of roses! Problems are inevitable and escaping or avoiding them will ruin your mental peace and happiness. Take action! React to them with a problem-solving attitude. Give your best, when you can and never regret the past. Face your problems head-on and you will grow more, become stronger and wise. Acknowledge your decisions and move ahead one step at a time. Think out of the box! There are people who have made mountains out of molehills. You can too!
27. Start being 100% honest with yourself in every matter
Be honest about everything in life – your goals, success, failure, marriage, family, friends and every aspect of life. Be honest about who you are, what you want to achieve and who you want to become. You’re the only person on whom you can always count on always. Search your soul, seek the truth, so that you have a better understanding of your present state and how you got here. Soon you’ll be mature enough to figure out where you want to go and how to get there.
28. Start concentrating on what you can control
One thing that we can always control in our life is input but not the outcomes. So, there is no point in wasting our time and energy on things that are beyond our control.
By investing more time in things that can make a difference, we can get rid of fear, anxiety, feeling of helplessness and passive action. By planning how to influence an outcome, you can foster a deep self-trust and inner peace.
29. Start focusing on opportunities
Listen to your intuition and do not pay heed to negative thoughts. Jeff Bezos never focused on why his online bookstore ideas will fail. Similarly, Mark Zuckerberg never focused on why Facebook will not work on a global scale. These people never changed their thinking in line with people who criticized their ideas. Instead, they focused on the possibility of positive outcomes.
Start focusing on what you want and not what things that are impossible. Everyone’s life has ups and downs! It depends on you to choose aspects that make you happy and successful in the long run.
30. Start noticing how wealthy you are right now
“That man is richest whose pleasures are cheapest.” Henry David Thoreau
Be grateful to things that you are blessed with right now. You have caring and loving parents, good health, access to modern technology, money to travel places, the choice to eat good food, wear branded clothes, friends you can count on even when times are tough and the list goes on.
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But, we often take these things for granted! On the other hand, there are people working day and night just for basic amenities like food to live. We cry for things that we don’t or can’t have. While you are chasing money, ignoring health and family, a cancer patient may see health as wealth. Count your blessings! Start thinking of things that make a good life and you will find those things coming your way.
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