Being an introverted extrovert is a different challenge altogether. You want to stay alone, but you also kind of want to socialize. You want to go out, but you kind of also want to have a party at home. These are just some of a few examples of being an introverted extrovert. If you are one, you know what a struggle it can truly be.
Introverted extroverts s are misunderstood very easily. People tend to notice the extroverted side of you more, so when you want to just stay at home and spend some time all by yourself, most of them can see it as you avoiding them or acting weird.
For you, you don’t lie on just one end of the introversion/ extroversion spectrum, you can lie anywhere. It all depends on your mood and what you want to do. So, what is an introverted extrovert, rather, what does it mean to be an introverted extrovert?
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15 Signs You’re An Introverted Extrovert
1. You are reserved, but you also love talking.
This is one of the biggest signs you’re an introverted extrovert. You are generally a reserved person, but you have also been blessed with the gift of the gab.
Just because you are quiet, that doesn’t mean you don’t want to talk or you don’t want to be a part of the conversation. You just like to give your two cents when you feel like the conversation truly needs it.
2. Even if you like talking, you don’t like talking to everyone.
When it comes to talking to people, you don’t like doing that with everyone. You only prefer to talk to those who you consider close to you.
Small talk is not that big of an issue for you, but you would never go up to anyone randomly and just start talking. The people with whom you have a good rapport and a good bond, are the ones for you.
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3. One-on-one plans are better for you.
No matter how much you like to socialize, one-on-one plans and hangouts are what makes you truly happy.
You would any day choose to hang out with 5 people rather than 50 because that’s how you actually get to someone on a deep and intimate level. A ton of people all talking and screaming together is not the ideal setting for you.
4. Responding to texts is a tricky affair.
Most of the time, you don’t respond to texts and calls because you simply don’t want to talk to anyone. It’s not that you hate them or have a problem with them, you simply don’t have the energy to get into a conversation like that.
Video calling, texting, and other modes of communication annoy you most of the time, and that’s why you choose to ignore them. But no hard feelings, you know.
5. You need to be mentally prepared to meet new people.
You are not averse to the idea of meeting new people, it’s just that that can be exhausting for you at times. So you literally have to mentally prepare yourself to socialize and have to get into the mindset of, “Okay, I’m going to be talking a lot.” Some amount of warning serves well in such cases so that you know what you are getting yourself into.
6. Alone time is amazing, but you also feel lonely at times.
Striking a balance between social time and alone time is a very tricky terrain to navigate for you, at times. You feel like going out but you don’t want to leave the comfort of your home. On the other hand, you want to stay at home but you also don’t want to miss out on meeting your friends for dinner.
7. You feel unsure about going out, but you have a good time if you do.
You sometimes require some coercing to get out of your house. Again, it’s not that you don’t want to go out, you just start thinking, “What if it’s not fun? I could totally be reading my book. What if the tickets are sold out? Are they inviting me because they feel sorry for me?”
You begin to overthink and build up scenarios as to what can go wrong, and that is what dissuades you from going out. But once you do, you find yourself having a good time.
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8. Making uncomfortable people feel comfortable is your forte.
You might not be the most talkative person in the room, but when you see someone feeling uncomfortable and out of place, you take it upon yourself to change that. You go up to them, talk to them, and make them feel at ease.
If they are not able to get a word in, you will help them say what they want to say by giving them the floor. You always try to help other people belong, no matter where you go.
9. You don’t plan parties, but when you do, it’s a big deal.
You just can’t imagine throwing a party just for your sake, because you ask yourself, “Why would somebody want to come to a party where I am the host?”.
Another reason is also that you feel intimidated to throw parties because you feel your guests will hate the arrangements you made. That’s why when you finally decide to do something, it’s a huge deal for you.
10. Other people believe in you a lot more than you do.
Since you can be outgoing and calculated at the same time, sometimes you end up being the leader of the group. But the thing is, that doesn’t mean you want all the glory and praise, nor do you want others to talk about how great you are.
Other people might have full faith in you and your abilities, but somehow you feel you are not good enough to be a leader. You think you can always do better, and that’s why appreciation makes you feel uncomfortable at times.
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11. You want to be noticed but freak out when you are in the limelight.
This is another one of the prominent examples of being an introverted extrovert You are always bouncing between wanting to be acknowledged and appreciated for your talents, and hard work, and the horrifying thought of being in the limelight.
You like it when you are complimented and noticed for your good things, but the moment you are the center of attention, you feel like running away.
12. Quaint cafes and coffee shops are your favorite places.
When you are an introverted extrovert personality, you feel at peace in places like quaint and quiet cafes and coffee shops, where you are surrounded by a lot of people, but you can still close yourself off and keep to yourself.
You don’t feel alone, but at the same time, you are able to have your personal space. You are surrounded by people, but you are not obligated to talk to them.
13. Trying to control your introverted side is a big struggle.
One of the biggest examples and troubles of being an introverted extrovert is controlling your introverted side. You often find your introverted side taking over in social situations where you are required to socialize and talk with people.
It ends up being quite a challenge because once you go into that reserved and shy zone, you literally have to force yourself to converse with people, especially when you don’t want to at all.
14. Small talk is not really something you look forward to.
You try to avoid small talk as much as you can because superficial conversations are not your forte. You want to know people on a deep and intimate basis and you want to really know someone.
You want to know what someone’s dreams and goals are. You want to talk about their thoughts, emotions, and feelings. Talking about the weather and what your neighbors are doing is not something you like to indulge in.
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15. If you like someone, you really like them.
You are extremely selective and picky about who you spend your time with and who you invest your energy on. Whoever you have hung out with multiple times, they should take it as a compliment because you don’t hang out with just anyone. Once you consider someone your friend and close to you, they are your friend for life.
So, did you relate to these? If yes, then congratulations, you are an introverted extrovert!
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