โWhen we are intimate with another human being, we become even more connected through energetic cords that are left on us and in us.โ- Arielle Ford
More often than not, lovers made vows and they always want that these are eternal even they knew that they were being pulled by unexpected lifeโs changes in different ways, sweeping them away into new lives and changed worlds. Iโll always be here for you when you need me. Always count on me no matter what may happen. That even how many times you broke my heart, it will always be opened for you.
But you have to consider some important things. When the relationship ended, donโt be tempted to stay with an Ex even if you think there is still a little piece of love in your heart. In a relationship, there are two kinds of endings: the happy ending and the sad ending.
And if youโre the one being left and experiencing a very sad ending becauseย (s)he ceased to get in touch with you, that perhaps (s)he has decided something elseย inย life. It hurts to lose someone you have learned to love. But it hurts even more if you cling on to someone who perhaps has decided to findย the way about life without you. Remember: No matter what, life must go on.
Here are the reasons why you should cut the cord with an Ex:
If your Ex hurt you once, it will be repeated over and over again:
This is quite so true. There is something so splendid, so abundant about lifeโs second chances that arrived each morning. Perhaps second chances (third, fourth and fifth) are the golden opportunities we thought too good to be true the first time around. But if an Ex really loves you then that Ex will never hurt you and will never leave you no matter what. Getting back together may seem so sweet or exciting but people are difficult to change. Donโt prolong any masquerade because it will depreciate you while your Ex gets away with murder.
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1. To remove old and negative patterns:
Old and negative patterns if not being cut will let you stuck in a rut. It will never clear the baggage that may have accumulated all throughout the time you spent together. Donโt let this drain or suck away your ability to enjoy life. Focus on the positive aspects. Get rid of the echoes of the past.
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2. Things will never be the same again:
Think that you and your Ex are back together again after a horrible break-up. Your heart will tell, โeverything will be alrightโ but in the end, bet my ass, the trust will never be the same again. Things that happened will always haunt you in each moment and the pain keeps coming back. Tell yourself youโre done with the pain of crying over someone who never appreciated your worth; of crying the tears of a lovelorn- the all-consuming spasmodic weeping that shattered your entire body. That youโre done being an option, being a second best and a doormat. That youโre done chasing pavements.
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3. To be able to find the right person for you:
Keep looking around. You donโt have to wait for five years to realize you deserve better- someone who would cross heaven and earth to be there for you; someone who comes through a hurricane or a tornado because that person cares for you; someone who makes you feel loved, amazing and invincible; who loves you- not halfway, not maybe and not a second best to someone else.
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4. You need to have new memories:
Fall in love with SOMEONE NEWโ in a separate way, one that involves only both of you and uninfluenced by the past or fall in love with YOURSELF. Travel and find yourself footloose in Paris, take a walk near the artistsโ district of Montmartre to No. 16 rue Chaptal. When walking the streets of Paris in a thin spring rain, breathing the fresh smell of the air and coffee, realize that you donโt need a perfect companion to have a romantic life. Because you see, there are people who have relationships but no romance at all. And there those whose lives are full of romance even when they are not paired up. Have a fairy tale romance with yourself. And thatโs romantically fabulous!
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5. To heal the broken pieces of your heart and soul:
You know how hard to mend a broken heart. Being constantly reminded by your Ex can happen thousands of ways. It reminded you of everything whenever you hear your favorite songs together being played on the air. Those old familiar lines might still give you a certain glow. It happens and you cannot stop missing your Ex. Move on from the sting that comes from the loss of someone you have loved. As what Jonathan Martensson said, โFeelings are much like waves. We cannot stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.โ Donโt go against yourself because thatโs one of the greatest mistakes you will do. Stop surrendering yourself into the grip of loneliness.
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6. To be with yourself:
Magic begins the moment you explore yourself. Donโt cut yourself off from one of lifeโs greatest pleasures. Itโs actually a good thing when youโre alone because it gives you a space and time to discover your existence and importance in life. Having someone beside you do not equate you from being alone and happy. Iโm not telling you to isolate yourself to the rest of the world. But when one gave up on you- donโt come up with the idea that life ended there. Start living from your heart and youโll find that every moment brings another chance to fall in love with SOMEONE NEW or with YOURSELF.
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7. Itโs time for your soul to sing a new song:
Itโs always lovely to try singing another song. Get rid of the old songs because it will always bring back the memories of an old flame and the old times. Never, ever think that those old lines will sound new again, it wonโt. Donโt ever think the old feelings will come through and stop wondering why your Ex walked away. Hey, sing a new song, Darling! And dance infront of new people and thatโs okay!
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8. ONE DAYโฆ
Your Ex will suddenly call you at 2 A.M to keep in touch with you again. BEWARE! Donโt interpret this as your Ex wants you back. (S)Heโs just trying to suck away your ability to enjoy life. When you feel you have done cutting the cord without sting in every inch of your soulโฆgive yourself a lovely pat or a big handโฆ
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9. LAUGH OUT LOUD!
Thatโs another way to get rid of excess negativities. It feels more fun than screaming harangues do! Tell yourself, โThanks God, there are people like them otherwise this world is such a boring place. โLet each dayโs brushstrokes reveal the incomparable beauty of your stilled life. Moments you once called ordinary now seem infused with grace. Go ahead, cut the cord and start a journey of finding yourself and feel beloved on earth once again.
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