Good for you for taking time to learn how to make your girlfriend feel safe, secure and loved in your relationship!
Relationships are wonderful but fraught with opportunities for things to go wrong. Men and women come at life from such different places, and sometimes, it’s hard for men to recognize what his girlfriend needs to feel safe.
And safe is something that women always say they are looking for in a man and they mean it.
And, of course, you want to give her that. What man wouldn’t?
But how the hell do you do that? What will make your girlfriend feel safe, secure and loved in your relationship? Let me tell you…
5 Ways To Make Your Girlfriend Feel Safe, Secure and Loved:
1. Listen to her.
The most important thing to make your girlfriend feel safe is for her to know that you are listening to her.
That when she talks you are paying attention and understanding what she is saying and feeling.
While you might be inclined to think that you need to ‘fix’ her to make her feel safe, in reality, really all she wants you to do is to listen and let her know that you are there for her.
So, next time your girl opens up to you, sit down and pay attention. Hold her hand, empathize with her feelings and confirm for her that you hear her, that you are there and that you always will be.
2. Follow through.
Are you one of those people who doesn’t always do what you say you are going to do? Your intentions are good but things get in the way of you being able to follow through.
Do you tell your girl that you will be home at 6 even if you aren’t going to be home until 8 because you don’t want to make her mad? Or that you will go pick out the windows for the house renovation, even though chances are good that you will have to work? Or do you fully intend to stop at the grocery store on the way home but you just forget?
People don’t follow through for a variety reasons. Very few of them are because we don’t love someone. We do it to prevent our person from feeling hurt or let down or we are human and forget. But we don’t do it because we don’t love our person enough.
Unfortunately, people tend to personalize that someone doesn’t do something for them. ‘If you loved me you would have done this’ is the phrase people hear when they haven’t followed through.
So, if you aren’t good at following through, regardless of the reason, you definitely won’t make your girlfriend feel safe. Instead you will make them feel unimportant and unloved.
Make sure you do what you say you are going to do. Allow your woman to feel confident that she can rely on you to always be there for her. And make her feel safe.
3. Use your words.
Have you ever thought to yourself ‘I don’t need to tell her how I feel about her. She knows.’
Do you take out the garbage faithfully, assuming that by doing so your girlfriend will know you love her?
If the answer to either question is YES then you are wrong!
Telling your woman how you feel about her is a key component in making her feel safe. She might have a sense of how you feel but to actually hear the words come out of your mouth let’s her know that you have her back. That you care about her enough to tell her and that she knows that she can count on you to be there for her.