Every ‘single’ individual needs to make the choice to wait for the type of love that doesn’t want to change you but helps you grow.
We fall in love with a person for who they are, accepting them as they are, in their entirety. Falling in love for what they could become is absurd. I am sorry but that’s not love. The moment you try to mold someone into who you think they should be is the moment it stops being love.
Getting into a relationship with the hope that the person will change i.e stop or start doing certain things is like shooting yourself in the leg on the first day.
Desiring a change in the person we love is not loving but it’s us wanting them to become something they are not, something we would like them to be to satisfy our own ego. Everybody has faults, and expecting the other person to be ideal and perfect is honestly, hypocritical.
Love is more about loving someone for exactly who they are and this my friend needs a lot of courage. The concept of trying to change someone is like taking patches of clothes and sewing them together until we feel this suits us best now, exactly that much absurd.
When we expect change from our partner we lose sight of what our partner aspires to become and where they are headed and instead of allowing them to grow as they are and achieve what they want to achieve we create hurdles for them because we want them to grow in only ways we want.
How about clearing your mind and being open to differences? How about accepting the fact that you and your partner are not the same people, and the beauty of it all lies in your differences?
Loving someone for who they are without expectations of change but growth, knowing someday they will grow different but on their own and still remain who they are. Growing the way they like and become a better version of themselves.
Nobody likes to be changed, nobody wants someone to tell them that they could be better if they wear this & this or speak this way or do things this way. No matter if that person loves you, you wouldn’t like he/she instructed you to become someone you’re not. If your sole motivation is to change your partner, and turn them into a second you, then what is even the point of being in a relationship with them?
Well to find such love who doesn’t want to change you but hopes you grow, you need to make a choice to wait. Finding someone who will grow with you takes times but it is totally worth it. Finding someone who will grow with you takes a lot of courage and faith, but when was anything worthwhile ever easy? Loving someone who loves just the way you are, now that’s something marvelous!
Relationship with chains leads you nowhere, the best kind of relationship is where you are free to follow your heart and there are no terms which you need to live by, no insecurities, and no fear of disappointing. The best kind of partner will want to help with your evolution and growth, and always focus on supporting you mentally, emotionally, and spiritually.
A love like this doesn’t mean that you don’t care about your partner or treat them poorly but rather means that you love them enough to let them follow their heart and inspire them to grow. A love wherein ego has no place and you let each other soar. A love that helps you become better. A love that helps you become more of who you already are. A love that will show you a mirror and not a portrait of who you should become or who they want you to become.