To Love A Girl Who Is Used To Being On Her Own

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What to do if you’re in love with a girl who is used to being on her own?

Are you in love with a girl who acts awkward when not able to decide anything? Does she like to do whatever she wants without validation or asking your opinion? Gets offended when you refuse her demand for personal space? Does she reply “I can do it,” whenever you want to help her with something? Then you are in love with a girl who is used to being on her own.

The girl who is used to being on her own enjoys solitude

girl who is used to being on her own

Her acuity for solitude and enjoying things herself limits her perspective. As a result, she may lack clarity over what she is looking for in love and the kind of partner she wants.  Dating may be difficult for her because she can’t open up herself.

If you’re in love with such a girl, remember that being on her own doesn’t translate to having an attitude, being loner, or egoistic. Sure, you may not get enough time to spend time with her but you’ll love to hear her when she is in a good mood and willing to speak her heart out.  You never know she may help you fall in love with yourself before you are head over heels in love with her.

So, if you are in love with a girl who is used to being on her own, be ready to understand and accept her lifestyle and respect it instead of complaining and fidgeting.

Watch this video to know about the psychology of solitude:

The girl who is used to being on her own enjoys self-dependence 

She is fiercely independent and strong than you think. So, she may not let you do things for her. At times you may find her stubborn for doing things that she sees right. But, if you love a girl who is used to being on her own you need to understand her comfort level and not force her to ask help. It might take her some time to adjust and accustom to a situation where she is no more alone.

Being on her own for years, it’s not at all easy to give herself up to you.  If you force your opinions, beliefs, and thoughts on her, chances are high she’ll pull away. She will not pull away because she hates you but scared of losing her space and freedom. 

Related: To The Girl Who Thinks She’s Better Off Alone

If you love her, give her time to come out of her comfort zone 

When being on your own becomes your comfort and safe zone, it takes time to adjust to new feelings and companionship. You might perceive loneliness as dangerous but the girl who is used to being on her own, mind her own business, worry about herself, answer to only herself; will find loneliness as beautiful.

It will take a lot of time for her to adjust to her new life with you.  Now put yourself in her shoes. How would you feel if suddenly someone shakes up your world, your daily routine, and that loneliness? Wouldn’t it be jarring?

She may not communicate with an open heart

Don’t get surprised if she communicates with you in a weird manner. She may not give an instant reply to your text messages or phone calls. Unlike you, she will go slowly in a relationship and avoid arguments.  You may feel she is playing ‘hard to get’.

But NO.

She has let you in her life because she likes you and thinking forward to spend the rest of her life with you. So, she is not playing games or trying to manipulate you.  She has been alone for a very long time. Spending most of the time with herself then friends and colleagues, she has developed poor communication skills.

Related: 15 Things To Know Before Dating A Strong Girl Who Is Used To Being Alone

The girl who is used to being on her own will be a challenge for you 

What if she is naive and afraid of being played and dumped? Being away from dating games and getting attention from men all these years, she won’t rush into a relationship.

Although she has let you in her life she will demand her private space because she feels safe. Her highest walls are tough to break because they do not just offer her protection but are a source of her identity.

If you like her, you need to understand and realize that it is equally hard and challenging for her to find space for you. 

Don’t look at her in the wrong way even if she says, “I’ll take care of it”, “I’ll handle myself” and sometimes “I don’t need you”.

Maybe she can handle her shit herself. But that doesn’t mean she doesn’t want you. She loves you and once she gets comfortable with you she would enjoy your company.

So, if you like a girl who is on her own, give her some time.

Related: To The Girl Who Tried A Little Too Hard For The Wrong Relationships

She’ll doubt you, unable to believe she has found someone who loves her and ready to accept her the way she is. It’s her mind that constantly tricks her to believe that she doesn’t need you. At the same time, she doesn’t want to come across as someone who is needy and helpless.

If you love her, give her time, clear her doubts, build that trust, respect her personal space, and independence. Initially, she will be uncertain to let you into her world that was previously only hers. 

Understand her life and world

She is also scared!!! what if she lets you in and gets too much comfortable with you and then you leave her all of a sudden. Such intrinsic fear may be the outcome of past painful experiences with dating and love. And she is extra cautious now. It must have been an incredibly difficult journey for her to let go of the person she loves and heal her broken heart. Now she dreads the very thought of experiencing the same shit again.

i dont think girls are becoming more heartless

Be ready to love the whole of her, accept her with her imperfections. Once she has overcome her fears and doubts, she will date with an open heart. She will let you in completely even though it took so much longer to trust you. She will love you more than any girl could ever love and be ready to never let you go. 

So, hold on guy! If you love her, have patience and perseverance!

Be there to help her when she asks you.

Stay there to give her assurance and say “I will always be there for you” and  “I Love You”.

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