The Truth About Getting A Date

Are you failing to get your perfect date?

Most guys have it backwards.

They think that when they get a girlfriend, they will finally be happy.

Sorry to piss on your cornflakes but thatโ€™s not how it works.

If only someone explained this to me back in the day, I wouldโ€™ve had less frustrations in my dating life.

To prove my point, let me ask you a question.

Have you ever met someone who became very โ€œbusyโ€ after going on a few dates with you?

This happened to me A LOT and I couldnโ€™t figure out why.Insanity is doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result.

So I took a step back to asses whatโ€™s going on.

Let me share with you what I discovered.

When a woman meets you for the first time, sheโ€™s assessing subconsciously what type of life sheโ€™s gonna have with you.

Is it going to be exciting and spontaneous OR is it going to be lame and predictable?

Itโ€™s a bit of a tough pill to swallow, isnโ€™t it?

Hereโ€™s the ugly truth about getting a girlfriend. You may not like it but Iโ€™ll tell you anyway.

You donโ€™t attract what you want. You attract who you are. The moment youโ€™re happy on your own is when the right relationship enters your life. I know this from experience.

Back in the day, I had nothing going for me. I had no hobbies, was out of shape and barely had friends.

Whenever Iโ€™d meet a girl, I would be OBSESSED with them. My sense of self-worth was based on whether they like me or not. Of course, none of them would want to go out with me.

Looking back now, I really couldnโ€™t blame them. Who would want to date someone who lived such a boring life?

Thatโ€™s when I took a break from dating and decided to focus on myself.

I started going to the gym, reading interesting books and taking up new hobbies. Overtime, I started to really like my own company. I valued my opinion more and did more things that I enjoyed.

And then something strange happened. Women were suddenly more interested in me.

If I go on a bad date or someone didnโ€™t text me back right away, I was less reactive. I knew that I had better things to do than worry about something so petty.

Funny how that works, huh?

The better you become as a man, the higher quality relationships youโ€™ll attract in your life. Whoever says otherwise is selling you hype.


Written by Myke Macapinlac
Originally appeared in The Good Men Project

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