Why You Should Relax And Try Not To Shoot That Second Arrow

Why You Should Relax And Try Not To Shoot That Second Arrow

Do you know the story of the Second Arrow, and how it can help you foster positive and healthy thinking during a scary time like this?

With the complete lockdown situation, people around the world are facing the current crisis of self-quarantine. It is an attempt to control the spread of coronavirus by limiting the number of people becoming carriers.

This novel situation limits your choices of action, but your choices of thought are not limited. You still can find solace in your logical thinking or be swept away with the anxiety of the future. The thoughts you choose have the power to hurt you or to heal you. These can be scary times, but we are resilient!

You may have some level of fear about this new way of living. That’s just normal human nature. But if your brain gets hijacked by this fear then it can have a negative effect on your immunity. Research shows that stress hormones make you more susceptible to viruses and also increase the time it takes to recover from them.

Here the focus is to fight the external enemy or situation and not the virus attacking the body within. This way you make yourself less immune because of your inability to correctly distinguish between the actual and virtual threats.

The Second Arrow

The negative stressful fear-based thinking is akin to the Second Arrow of the Buddhist parable. According to this story, a great warrior was accidentally hit in the left foot by an arrow and felt tremendous pain.

Outraged and angry the warrior took another arrow and shot it into the exact same spot and fell down screaming in pain. The second arrow not just doubled the pain but made it at least ten times more intense. What an unreasonable warrior, right? Who would ever do such a stupid thing? Well everyone does it!

Here the first arrow stands for an actual bad event and the second arrow represents your negative reaction to this bad event.

Staying at home is the unwelcome first arrow for almost everyone. But the second arrow comes in the form of negative thoughts like “I’m going to be alone forever. I could get sick. I could die. My loved ones could die. My 21 days are ruined.

The economy could crash. I could lose all the money I have in the market. I could go broke. I could die of starvation. I want this all to go away NOW”. The second arrow may take the form of judgment – Why is the government attacking my freedom? Or fear – What if the virus doesn’t go away? Or anger – I hate that I’m quarantined. I don’t deserve this!

Often, you even shoot the third and fourth arrows, e.g. when you get afraid about being fearful, frustrated about being annoyed, or depressed about being stressed.

The third arrow hits you when you feel bad for feeling anxious or thinking certain thoughts like ‘Why am I feeling so upset? I shouldn’t feel it’ or ‘What kind of horrible person am I for thinking about such worst-case scenarios?’ These negative thoughts increase the stress of the actual event, by ten times or even more.

Most of life’s suffering is caused by such second arrows rather than first arrows. In other words, with negative thinking, you now have two enemies; the virus named “corona” and the virus named your “mind.”

And it’s the mind’s fear, negativity, and habit of always looking for what’s wrong or what could go wrong that may be poisoning your life right now. While the first arrow is unavoidable and undoubtedly painful, the real suffering stems from self-inflicted second and third arrows, which you have control over.

The moral of the story – RELAX! Life will hit you with arrows. Don’t hit yourself with another one in the same exact spot.


There is no denying that humanity is living in the times of Corona but yet you must RELAX. Although relaxing seems like a daunting task you would be surprised to know about the benefits of a relaxed mindset. Having a calm mind with positive thoughts will spark off positive emotions, which then inspires you to take constructive actions and in turn create vibrant energy around you.

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Twinkle Thakkar

I am Twinkle Thakkar a Happiness and Health Coach, I am passionate about what I do, and I love to help people. *I believe that if you are Happy you are Healthy.* I help you understand the human psychosomatic nature, wherein everything that happens in your body has subtle vibrations in your mind and anything that happens in your mind (all your thought & emotions) leave specific impact on your body. I make you understand different aspects of your emotions and help you express them more effectively. To motivate you towards a happier and healthier lifestyle; I guide you with your daily diet, regular exercises and sound sleeping habits. I constantly change and improve my coaching skills to adapt to your needs. Hence, you can be rest assured that your happiness and health is bound to reach new heights under my guidance. View Author posts