4 Harsh Reasons Even GOOD Men CHEAT (According To An Escort Who Knows)

Why Do Men Cheat? 4 Solid Reasons Why Even Good Men Stray

Why do men cheat, even when they are in stable and happy relationships? A former escort has the answer to this tricky question.

HINT: It’s not because he doesn’t love you.

Before launching my relationship coaching business, I spent five years working in Washington DC as an escort. This was a lucrative profession and I was fortunate to have met many wonderful clients and to have accompanied them around the world.

Still, I found this work to be emotionally taxing and a poor choice of profession if I wanted to live a normal life. Despite these challenges, I’d never take back my days as an escort.

I gained a unique insider perspective in regard to men and how they think, communicate, and rationalize many of their actions. I finally understood why men cheat, even if he loves his wife.

This work taught me an enormous amount about myself, my previous marriage, and why my own husband left me even though he still loved me.

Finally, I understood where I went wrong in my own relationship. In hindsight, I saw the warning signs telling me that my marriage was over well before I knew it was.

Why do men cheat, anyway? I have heard other men and some women argue that his cheating is due to her “letting herself go physically.” If she would just get back into shape, he would be more attracted to her again.

This is a ridiculous argument. It places all the blame and responsibility on her and releases him of any responsibility.

As if her only obligation in life is to be eye candy and work out seven days a week. Most likely, he has put on a few pounds and has no room to talk about her physical appearance.

While her physical appearance or his lack of sexual attraction may be a factor, it is rarely the only reason why men cheat. If it has less to do with her and more to do with him, then what is the problem?

Here are 4 reasons or patterns of behavior that explain why men may still cheat, as opposed to simply addressing the issues within their own relationship.

Related: 4 Reasons Why Men Cheat And Signs He is Having An Affair

Why Do Men Cheat?

Here are the reasons why even good men cheat:

why do men cheat

1. Men are poor communicators in relationships.

He’s an ace in many areas, but when it comes to understanding his own feelings and then effectively communicating his feelings with you, he gets an F.

If he wants more couple time, sex, or spice in the relationship, chances are he’ll try to talk to you about it a few times, but he will quickly lose patience, become resentful, and justify having to go outside the relationship.

Related: Why Do People Cheat Even In Happy Relationships? 4 Myths About Infidelity and Affairs

2. Men have affairs due to their own insecurities.

Many men love their wives/girlfriends and the life they have together. They have a great relationship, she is gorgeous, and they have a great sex life, yet he still sees other women.

In this case, his cheating has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the 6 inches between his head. He feels insecure in one way or another and needs to prove to himself that “he’s still got it” by seeing other women.

3. Men try to avoid conflict in a relationship.

Conflict avoidance is another example of his inability or unwillingness to communicate.

Rather than discussing his feeling or needs with you, he’ll choose not to rock the boat, and instead, dodge uncomfortable discussions, questions, or hurt feelings and simply seek out another woman to compensate for what he feels is missing in your relationship.

4. Men look for the path of least resistance.

From his perspective, it makes little sense to upset you or your relationship by bringing up heated topics. After all, he has to live with you and deal with any negative ramifications for days or weeks.

He rationalizes that, instead, he can find a physical relationship on the side to get the small piece of what he’s missing in his real relationship.

In his mind, this is a win-win. He remains happy because you’re happy and unaware that there is a problem. Life is good and continues on as usual.

why do men cheat

So what is the moral of the story here? Why should every woman want to hear what this former escort has to say about your relationship?

The fact is he’d rather be getting everything he needs emotionally and sexually from you. He doesn’t want to outsource his physical and emotional needs to someone else.

What he really wants is to have the romantic and meaningful sex life the two of you had when you first met.

Related: Why Do Married Men Cheat And Stay Married?

Unfortunately, if he thinks something is missing in your relationship, he doesn’t always know how to talk to you about it without hurting your feelings and causing conflict.

Women need to be proactive and discuss the relationship with him to determine if both of them are getting what they need.

If he feels like he can be open and honest about his feelings and desires, he is much less likely to feel justified in having an affair.

Written by Jessica Brighton
Originally appeared on Yourtango.com
Printed with permission

So, why do men cheat? Infidelity and cheating in a relationship aren’t always as black and white as most people perceive them to be. It is not always a simple case of physical attraction; many times it is way more than that.

But that does not mean every man out there will be caught cheating on their partner. These reasons are simply attempting to look beyond the straightforward factors that come into play when it comes to men cheating.


4 Harsh Reasons Even GOOD Men CHEAT (According To An Escort Who Knows)
 Reasons Even GOOD Men CHEAT Pin
cheating

— About the Author —

Responses

  1. HJSLLS Avatar
    HJSLLS

    This writer is correct. Her experience and confidential discussions with many men in this situation have provided a valuable survey of male psychology when it comes to managing marriages.

    Some of the comments here also reveal why many women will never understand and are quick to over simplify the male psychology. This article will only be appreciated by those truly willing to learn.

Leave a Reply



Up Next

10 Unexpected Signs Of Cheating: How To Tell If Your Spouse Is Having An Affair

Unexpected Signs Of Cheating: Beyond the Obvious

If you are googling “surprising and unexpected signs of cheating” at 2 in the morning, then you’ve come to the right place. Well, we all have been there. Suspicion and doubt can sneak up like an uninvited guest when it comes to your spouse; something tells you that something is wrong, but you just can’t put your finger on it.

When it comes to infidelity, it’s not always about the lipstick on the collar or mysterious phone calls at night. There can be many subtle signs of cheating that you might overlook and miss out on.

So go grab some coffee (or something stronger) and explore all the hidden signs you spouse



Up Next

The Cheaters’ Playbook: 3 Types Of Men Who Have Affairs

The Cheaters' Playbook: Types Of Men Who Have Affairs

Have you ever wondered why do some men have affairs? It isn’t always because they’re just looking for excitement or are bored. There’s usually more to it. There are actually 3 types of men who have affairs, and we are going to do a deep dive into that today.

In a perfect world, love would keep everyone on course, but the truth is we often have to deal with betrayal and heartbreak. We’re going to take a close look at the 3 types of men who have affairs, some of the glaring traits of men who cheat, and most importantly, why do men have affairs.

Let’s start with understanding the traits of men who cheat.



Up Next

How Does A Narcissist Act When Caught Cheating? 6 Things A Narcissistic Partner Might Say

How Does A Narcissist Act When Caught Cheating? Statements

How does a narcissist act when caught cheating? If you have ever been with a narcissist, you know what happens when a narcissist is caught cheating, and all the absurd things they say to justify their actions. Let’s explore 6 statements a narcissists makes when a narcissist gets caught cheating.

KEY POINTS

A narcissistic partner may routinely say six things when they are caught cheating.

These statements are manipulative and are meant to get you to believe that you are the one at fault.

An understanding of how these statements influence your judgment may help.



Up Next

How To Get Over Emotional Cheating: 10 Practical Tips

Practical Tips On How To Get Over Emotional Cheating

Finding out that the person you love the most is in love with someone else can be one of the most heartbreaking experiences. Emotional cheating can not only shatter a relationship, but it can also traumatize and emotionally break the other partner. Let’s learn how to get over emotional cheating and start the healing process

What Does Emotional Cheating Mean?

Also known as emotional infidelity or emotional affair, it refers to a relationship where one person falls in love with, becomes emotionally intimate or develops a romantic bond with someone else outside their primary relationship or marriage.



Up Next

The 3 Most Common Types Of Cheaters: Uncovering The Love Fraudsters

Most Common Types Of Cheaters: The Silent Echoes Of Deceit

In every love story, the sweet haze of romance often hides some unsettling figures lurking in the shadows—figures of deceit that can turn sweet stories bitter. When it comes to infidelity and cheating, you might be a bit surprised to know that there are different types of cheaters, mainly 3 types of cheaters.

Revealing these types of cheaters might bring out uncomfortable truths, but they’re important for understanding the complex world of human emotions. Through their different ways of dishonesty, they show the complicated and tangled nature of cheating. Each one represents a warning about the rough patches that love can sometimes



Up Next

Can A Narcissist Be Faithful? 18 Reasons Why They Cheat (And Why They Don’t)

Can A Narcissist Be Faithful? Reasons They Can Be

Can a narcissist be faithful? This question delves into the intricate world of narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) and the complex dynamics of relationships involving narcissists. 

Understanding the psychology behind this topic is crucial for those who have encountered or are currently involved with narcissistic individuals. Let us explore the nature of narcissism, the reasons why a narcissist can be unfaithful, as well as the factors that might lead them to exhibit faithfulness. 

Can a Narcissist be Faithful in a Relationship?

Can a narcissist be faithful? This is a nuanced question and doesn’t really have a straightforward answer.



Up Next

The 3 Least Loyal Zodiac Signs Who Seem Allergic To Commitment

Three Least Loyal Zodiac Signs: A Guide To Avoid Red Flag

The precious bond that fortifies connections and defines true devotion is loyalty. But these three least loyal zodiac signs are masters of unpredictability, challenging the very essence of commitment.

While the zodiac can offer insights into our strengths and weaknesses, it’s also known for pointing out our less desirable traits. 

Brace yourself, for we’re about to unveil the truth about the least loyal zodiac signs. From the silver screen to real life, these signs have left a trail of disloyalty that’s hard to ignore. 

So, if you’re ready to dive into the drama, let’s explore the traits of these most disloyal zodiac signs!

Read more he