6 Practices That Can Make Your Relationship Stronger

practices that can make your relationship stronger

Have you heard of the “LOVE” Bank Account?  Every relationship has one whether you realize it or not. While it is invisible, it is very real.

When you do something nice for your partner it’s like making a “deposit” into their Love Bank Account. When something negative happens in the relationship you are making a “withdrawal” from the account. You get the idea.

It’s the small things we do on a daily basis in relationships that truly make a difference in strengthening our connection and bond to one another. When you are making deposits every day in the “Love” account, it is almost like having an insurance policy for a fail-proof relationship that stands the test of time.

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6 Things That Can Make Your Relationship Stronger

1. LOVE Daily

One of our morning rituals is making the bed and sharing coffee together. One of us makes the coffee and the other will make the bed. Sometimes we make the bed together. Small gestures of serving one another make a huge impact on your affinity for one another. Giving cards and handwritten notes is another way to show your love for one another.

2. Celebrate Your Love Often

We celebrate the anniversary of the day we met every month. We acknowledge the commitment to our relationship in various ways but always on the 14th of every month. Even if we are apart, we will send a note in the mail, flowers, or a small gift recognizing our special day. We usually go out to dinner or have a romantic dinner at home.

3. Speak Your Partners Love Language

In Gary Chapman’s book “The Five Love Languages” he shares how we can improve our relationships by discovering our love language and using that to connect to others. Check out www.5lovelanguages.com and take the test with your partner to discover your love languages. If you are not the same love language, we recommend getting the book to learn how to speak your partner’s love language fluently. Be sure to do one thing a day that speaks to your partner’s primary love language. 

4. Let’s Get Physical

Even if your primary love language isn’t Physical Touch, part of a romantic relationship is getting physical. Being intimate and enjoying sex with your partner connects you emotionally and physically which is imperative for a great relationship. 

In fact, there are quite a few studies showing other benefits to having frequent sex: boosting your immune system, lowering blood pressure, great for your heart and improved relaxation. Sex does the body and mind good! Maybe try a 30-day intimacy challenge. It can’t hurt and the payoffs are enormous!

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5. Spiritual Practice

We highly recommend having and deepening a spiritual connection with one other so that you continue to grow together. This is something for you to define as a couple based on your spiritual beliefs. For us, part of our spiritual practice is going to Unity Church that honors all pathways to God or Spirit with an emphasis on inspiring people to live better lives.

Marty gave me “The Book of Awakening” by Mark Nepo that is filled with daily messages that he reads to me every morning. Every night we go to sleep listening to mediation from the Stop Breath Think App that is FREE.

We’ve deepened our spiritual practice in smaller but just as meaningful ways too. This includes smudging our home and ourselves regularly with White Sage to clear any negative energy. We also love Affirmation and Angel Cards. We have numerous sets of them that we’ll randomly choose to pick a card for the day or use to ask for guidance and clarity in various situations.

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Dana Lam

Dana Lam is the co-founder of The Surprise Date Challenge which was created to invoke creativity and inspiration in love and relationships by turning the commonplace into extraordinary. Dana is committed to sharing activities and events that ignite the spark, eliminate the mundane and add adventure, love, and purpose to relationships, whether they are new or 20 years strong. Her goal is to inspire couples at all stages to put love at the forefront. For more information go to www.SurpriseDateChallenge.comView Author posts