Decoding Narcissistic Language: 19 Weird Things Narcissists Say and What They Really Mean

Author : Emilia Gordon

Can you make out the true meaning of the things narcissists say or do you get lost in their deceptive words?

Narcissists are known to be two-faced and fake to their core. Most of the time, the things narcissists say arenโ€™t what they mean in reality. Learning about the things narcissists say and what these things actually mean will help you see through things and move past the fake schemes.

Narcissists are like con artists. They even delude themselves! As a result, very few can see through them.

Have you ever come across a narcissist? According to psychology, a narcissist is a very egoistic person who fantasizes themselves to be greater than the people around them. Immersed in this self-image, they expect others to give them very special treatment without any reciprocation of the same.

You might feel that these characteristics can easily be spotted but itโ€™s not as easy as it seems. Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They are experts in using words to protect their lies and to earn your love and support.

Narcissists lie but the phrases they use are not lies, they are facades. They will use this art of expression so well that even if their deeds fail to validate their words, you would find it difficult in believing them.

But you would never want to fall into the trap, would you? No, because you will now get to know the most common things narcissists say to play with their victimโ€™s mind.

Related: 7 Signs of A Female Narcissist

19 Weird Things Narcissists Say And What They Really Mean

So, to make things easier to identify, we have a range of phrases for you; the most common things narcissists say and the real meanings hidden behind them.

1.  โ€œI love youโ€ = โ€œDamn! You can figure out my real intention. I need to distract you.

2.  โ€œI am sorryโ€ = Hey, just forget what happened; I need some attention.

3. โ€œYou are my soul mateโ€ = Ohโ€ฆIโ€™m enjoying this high-level spiritual feel for the time being.

4. โ€œThat never happened.โ€ = Yeah, I made a mistake but I donโ€™t want you to talk about it.

5.  โ€œYou are too sensitiveโ€= Cut the crap now; stop talking about my bad behavior.

The things narcissists say can mess with your mind

Related: Narcissism; What Are Narcissistic Traits?

6.  โ€œI am your motherโ€ =I get the right to have full control over your life.

7.  โ€œForgive and forgetโ€ = Keep on tolerating my abuse all the time.

8.  โ€œI have never met anyone like youโ€ = You all are the same. Iโ€™m texting 7 other women the same thing now.

9โ€œMy ex-girlfriend was crazy.โ€= My ex-girlfriend came to know about my abuse. But I donโ€™t want you to know the truth from her.

10.  โ€œI have been really wanting to settle downโ€ = Since Iโ€™m talking about settling down, you should believe that I am a responsible guy and hence, a nice person.

The things narcissists say can mess with your mind

Related: How and Why Narcissists Try to Destroy You With Circular Conversations

11 โ€œStop living in the pastโ€ = Okay. Peace. Can I abuse you now?

12.  โ€œShe is crazyโ€ = I am getting stressed out because I feel she knows the truth about me and now she is telling everyone about it.

13.  โ€œI donโ€™t have an anger problemโ€= How does it matter if I do? I will abuse you no matter what.

14.  โ€œIโ€™m upsetโ€= I need you to give me more attention.

15.  โ€œI donโ€™t want to communicate.โ€= I need you to flatter me and pamper me.

The things narcissists say can mess with your mind

16.  โ€œCheaters are scumโ€ = I am cheating you and you shouldnโ€™t complain.

17.  โ€œNobody likes youโ€ = Nobody likes me but it will be portrayed on a different note.

18.  โ€œI am so modestโ€= You should tolerate my abuse.

19.  โ€œYouโ€™re the problemโ€ = I am the problem and I donโ€™t care.

Related: 22 Things The Injured Narcissist Says and What They Really Mean

So you see, how narcissists have so many methods of manipulating and gaslighting you! The next time you feel that someone is a narcissist, see whether they are using these statements or not. If they do, then itโ€™s time for you to run for the hills, and never look back.


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Born and brought up in Kansas, Emilia is a writer and a social activist.She enjoys travelling and meeting new people

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Can you make out the true meaning of the things narcissists say or do you get lost in their deceptive words?

Narcissists are known to be two-faced and fake to their core. Most of the time, the things narcissists say arenโ€™t what they mean in reality. Learning about the things narcissists say and what these things actually mean will help you see through things and move past the fake schemes.

Narcissists are like con artists. They even delude themselves! As a result, very few can see through them.

Have you ever come across a narcissist? According to psychology, a narcissist is a very egoistic person who fantasizes themselves to be greater than the people around them. Immersed in this self-image, they expect others to give them very special treatment without any reciprocation of the same.

You might feel that these characteristics can easily be spotted but itโ€™s not as easy as it seems. Narcissists are masters of manipulation. They are experts in using words to protect their lies and to earn your love and support.

Narcissists lie but the phrases they use are not lies, they are facades. They will use this art of expression so well that even if their deeds fail to validate their words, you would find it difficult in believing them.

But you would never want to fall into the trap, would you? No, because you will now get to know the most common things narcissists say to play with their victimโ€™s mind.

Related: 7 Signs of A Female Narcissist

19 Weird Things Narcissists Say And What They Really Mean

So, to make things easier to identify, we have a range of phrases for you; the most common things narcissists say and the real meanings hidden behind them.

1.  โ€œI love youโ€ = โ€œDamn! You can figure out my real intention. I need to distract you.

2.  โ€œI am sorryโ€ = Hey, just forget what happened; I need some attention.

3. โ€œYou are my soul mateโ€ = Ohโ€ฆIโ€™m enjoying this high-level spiritual feel for the time being.

4. โ€œThat never happened.โ€ = Yeah, I made a mistake but I donโ€™t want you to talk about it.

5.  โ€œYou are too sensitiveโ€= Cut the crap now; stop talking about my bad behavior.

The things narcissists say can mess with your mind

Related: Narcissism; What Are Narcissistic Traits?

6.  โ€œI am your motherโ€ =I get the right to have full control over your life.

7.  โ€œForgive and forgetโ€ = Keep on tolerating my abuse all the time.

8.  โ€œI have never met anyone like youโ€ = You all are the same. Iโ€™m texting 7 other women the same thing now.

9โ€œMy ex-girlfriend was crazy.โ€= My ex-girlfriend came to know about my abuse. But I donโ€™t want you to know the truth from her.

10.  โ€œI have been really wanting to settle downโ€ = Since Iโ€™m talking about settling down, you should believe that I am a responsible guy and hence, a nice person.

The things narcissists say can mess with your mind

Related: How and Why Narcissists Try to Destroy You With Circular Conversations

11 โ€œStop living in the pastโ€ = Okay. Peace. Can I abuse you now?

12.  โ€œShe is crazyโ€ = I am getting stressed out because I feel she knows the truth about me and now she is telling everyone about it.

13.  โ€œI donโ€™t have an anger problemโ€= How does it matter if I do? I will abuse you no matter what.

14.  โ€œIโ€™m upsetโ€= I need you to give me more attention.

15.  โ€œI donโ€™t want to communicate.โ€= I need you to flatter me and pamper me.

The things narcissists say can mess with your mind

16.  โ€œCheaters are scumโ€ = I am cheating you and you shouldnโ€™t complain.

17.  โ€œNobody likes youโ€ = Nobody likes me but it will be portrayed on a different note.

18.  โ€œI am so modestโ€= You should tolerate my abuse.

19.  โ€œYouโ€™re the problemโ€ = I am the problem and I donโ€™t care.

Related: 22 Things The Injured Narcissist Says and What They Really Mean

So you see, how narcissists have so many methods of manipulating and gaslighting you! The next time you feel that someone is a narcissist, see whether they are using these statements or not. If they do, then itโ€™s time for you to run for the hills, and never look back.


The things narcissists say can mess with your mind
Things Narcissists Say What Really Mean pin

Published On:

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Emilia Gordon

Born and brought up in Kansas, Emilia is a writer and a social activist.She enjoys travelling and meeting new people

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