Decoding men can be a challenging thing, to be honest. But if you really want to understand them and their words, all you need to do is pay a little bit of attention to what they are saying and how they are saying it.
It seems to be the age-old mystery: what does he really mean when he says certain things? And why do men seem to have this whole other language that we women just canโt quite understand?
John Grey shed some light on this phenomenon in his infamous bookย Men Are from Mars and Women Are from Venus, but now that dating has gone digitalย surely the rules have changed?
There seems to be this constant communication breakdown between the sexes, resulting in frustration, bad dates, and a whole lot of heartache. So to help the ladies with some basic โmanslationโ. Hereโs a list of common things a man says and what he really means.
Decoding Men: What He Says Vs. What He Really Means
1. โYou look hot!โ
What he means: I want to take you to bed or get physical with you and am not necessarily offering anything serious at the moment.
2. โYou look beautifulโ
What he means: I really like you, you have my attention.
3. โI think youโre really nice, butโฆโ
What he means: Iโm not interested in anything right now.
4. โYou have a great personality, but โฆโ
What he means: Iโm not interested in or attracted to you. (Basically, if thereโs a โBUTโ after any sentence itโs a good indication he isnโt after anything serious.)
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5. โHey!โ
What he means: If heโs just sending one-word lines with no questions after or only short non-committal answers then the guy is not 100% committed to getting to know you. Move on.
6. โWanna hang out?โ
What he means: I want something casual and canโt be bothered to ask you on a formal date. Heโs most likely keeping his options open.
7. โSorry, Iโm busy, maybe another time?โ
What he means: Itโs possible he is genuinely busy, however, if he is serious about seeing you again he will organize and lock in a time with you. Otherwise, this is just an excuse not to make you a priority because he isnโt wanting more.
8. โItโs not you itโs meโ
What he means: It is most definitely him. Either he doesnโt want to hurt your feelings or face the music.
9. โI just need some spaceโ
What he means: This could mean one of two things โ either he needs some time to think a few things over or he isnโt interested in committing.
10. โNetflixย and chill?โ
What he means: We all know what this means and where it leads to.
11. โDo you want to come back to mine for a drink?โ
What he means: Do you want to possibly make out with me on my couch?
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12. โI would love to see you againโ
What he means: ย He actually really wants to see you again.
13. โWhat are you wearing?โ
What he means: He pretty much wants to know if you are naked. Most of the time he wants a visual image because he has one thing on his mind.
14. โI donโt need helpโ
What he means: I donโt want to admit my faults or weaknesses.
15. โIโm just not after anything seriousโ
What he means: I donโt want a commitment right now, but Iโll take the casual part!
16. โI like your hair/ dress/ shoesโ
What he means: He is noticing the detailsโฆ
17. โYou have beautiful eyesโ
What he means: He is attracted to you and probably wants to kiss you.
18. โDo you want to go somewhere casual?โ
What he means: He doesnโt want to get too serious yet until he gets to know you.
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19. โSorry, have to raincheck. Super busy. Will try to catch you another timeโ
What he means: If he hasnโt bothered to call you to cancel plans or locked in another time then this guy isnโt prioritising you, probably because he doesnโt want anything serious.
20. โWhat ya doing now? Wanna come over?โ(text sent at 10pm)
What he means: BOOTY CALL!
So whatโs the outtake?
In general, ladies, the best way to know if he is into you or not is this: if he is you wonโt have to ask yourself the question, you will just know. Men arenโt as complicated as we think. Most of the time their actions will reveal their true intentions and what they say they really mean.
And if youโre ever in doubt just ask them! Great communication works both ways so donโt be afraid to ask a few questions and get some clear answers.
Written by Renee Slansky
Source: TheDatingDirectory.Co
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