Compliments: Your Key to Copulation – Sassy Advice for Men

Compliments may seem like a superficial, silly, or even manipulative mode of communication. But appreciating a woman out loud is a powerful way of showing that you’re really present with her, and all she has to offer.

Heterosexual men of the world: Take Note!

Take Heed!

Listen Up, Etc.

Has life dealt you only losing hands in your… for lack of a better word, dealings with women? Striking out in this game called love? One word, gentlemen:


Just compliment her and she will copulate with you wantonly! Instantly, and right on the spot! You’d better wear those snap-off track pants just to be ready!

For the sex!

It’s a dog eat dog world. We all work our butts off to try and look good, do good, and most of all, be good. And for the most part, it’s thankless work. This is partly because we are working hardest to please the invisible demons of inadequacy that have taken our egos hostage thanks to a relentless advertising program bent on convincing us that we suck but that they have a product which can fix us and otherwise we will never find love!!!

No... Noo... Noooo!!!

No… Noo… Noooo!!!

…Seriously, though.

The women you know, love, desire, care for, and share your days with have not escaped unscathed from this onslaught (of mind-killing demons, as mentioned in the last paragraph). If there is a woman in particular that you care for, then you’re probably already aware of the many incredible ways that she is lovely and wonderful. You may not know that it took her hours on pinterest to choose that hairstyle (and a half hour more, daily, to maintain it), or that she made that sweater herself so that it would fit right. You may not realize that her sense of humor, effervescent and light as it seems, is actually a desperate defense mechanism, or that she chose this career to make up for some inadequacy which she sees in herself, or that her listening skills took years of soul-searching to develop.

We’re all trying our best, working really hard to be good people, everyday. We do this to be worthy of each other. Acknowledging and appreciating what someone is doing well is a way of saying “you’re worth it.”

I am of course just joking regarding the compliments inevitably leading copulation thing. Beyond the fact that sex is not something that women possess and men must get from them (which implies that male sexuality isn’t the beautiful gift that it is, btw), this idea is flawed for one simple reason: There is no key, secret code, nor special button that will magically cause people, women or not, to have sex with you right here on the spot, wantonly or otherwise. There are only individual humans, each the center of their own infinite universe and each a complex universe unto themselves. Some of these women may be utterly incredibly overwhelmingly attractive to you, and believe it or not, you may be the same to some of them. Whether you have just met a woman or have been with one for years, appreciating her out loud can be a powerful way of building intimacy with the woman you care about.

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Kathryn Hogan
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