Authentic Kindness Vs. People Pleasing

authentic kindness vs people pleasing

Authentic kindness

•Saying “no” when I’m at my limit or need a break.

•Letting someone know when they’ve hurt me or crossed a boundary.

•Refusing to enable behavior that harms my nervous system.

•Standing up for myself in a compassionate way.

•Believing in someone’s ability to do what’s best for them.

People pleasing

•Saying “yes” then feeling regret + resentment later.

•Keeping feelings + needs to myself out of fear or shame.

•Allowing harmful behavior in order not to “lose” someone’s love.

•Denying my reality or taking on someone else’s as “truth”.

•Feeling like I need to fix or rescue someone because they need me


Louisa Alcott