An Apology To My Ex and I

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An Apology To My Ex and I

Have you ever given an apology to your ex? The apology to your ex is not because you hurt them, but because they hurt you. Every step of the way.

I am sorry for giving unsolicited suggestions to improve yourself, for pointing out your mistakes, and for triggering you to be upset when you thought I always made myself as the hero, and you as the villain.

I just thought I needed to help you to grow because maybe it was my responsibility as someone who cared about you and someone you were in a relationship with.

Forgive me for snapping back at you every time you tried to fight me.

Maybe I should have shut my mouth and didn’t defend myself regardless if I was right or wrong. Maybe I shouldn’t have stood up for myself.

Want to know more about how you can feel better about your ex? Read You Don’t Owe Anything To Your Ex After A Breakup. Or May Be You Do.

I understand that sometimes my opinions come off as strong.

And I know you get hurt when I disagreed with you, but do you really want to live a life when nobody tells you you’re wrong when it’s obvious to everyone that you are?

I see that you didn’t get my point on the days that I slammed doors in your face.

You convinced yourself that I was being rude and difficult to you. But have you ever tried to wonder out loud that perhaps you did something incredibly stupid before I started acting ‘different’?

But I digress. I apologize.

I’m sorry if I was a complete bitch.

I’m sorry that I knew my worth; that I fought for my right; and that I speak my thoughts.

I thought you were man enough to understand and handle a strong bitch like me.

But you felt intimidated that I was the kind of bitch who had a lot to say.

And you felt threatened that a bitch like me knew how to win an argument.

I realize now that you’re too weak to be in a relationship with a complete bitch.

And you’re even weaker for breaking up with me.

I am sorry if I made you felt small. So small that you end up looking at yourself less than your value.

You need a bitch who’s not going to outshine you; a bitch who’s willing to let you drive the wheel 100 percent of the time.

I couldn’t be that bitch.

So for the last time, forgive me for being a complete bitch to you.

But wait… maybe I wasn’t really sorry at all.

And I apologize.


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    Annemarie Domizio

    Fiction or not, people have been sending these letters for years. Love that she puts it all back on “him” with no personal accountability. Clearly neither party understands respect and that’s disturbing. I wonder…if it gets that dirty was there ever really love in the first place?



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