9 Ways Your Partner Uses Guilt Trips To Get What They Want From You

Are You Being Manipulated Through Your Own Guilt?

 February 23, 2019

9 Ways Your Partner Uses Guilt Trips To Get What They Want From You

It is very easy for people to ask, ‘Why didn’t they just get out of the situation?’ But every victim of abuse knows that it is never that easy, more so when the abuse comes from a person who is close to you. Abuse can be both mental and physical and the former is especially hard to detect.

When it is coming from your significant other, it can be very hard to leave the situation.  An abuser will almost always force you to be dependent on them. They’ll use your own emotions against you. They will leave you in a state of self-doubt, paranoia, and depression. If you’re experiencing any of these feelings and your gut tells you that it is because of your significant other, you need to get out immediately.

These are just some of the techniques they’ll use to turn you against yourself:

1. All Your Emotions Are Pre Decided

Normally your partner will express concern for your emotions and they’ll want to know what you feel like so that you can both plan accordingly. But when they constantly make you feel guilty for feeling worn-out after work or for wanting to go out for a nice dinner, something is wrong. They’re manipulating your mind so that your emotional reactions will be determined by their own needs at all times.

2. Constant Self-Doubt

Once you’re an adult, it only stands to reason that you’re old enough to decide what you want to do with your life. As an individual, you have the right to choose the things that make you happy. A manipulative partner will keep making you question your own choices with sly remarks and pointed questions till you are no longer sure whether you can trust yourself to make the right choice. This is part of their plan to control you as you will start turning to them for help instead of doing things for yourself.

3. They are The Center Of The Universe

It is natural to expect your partner to be there for you through the ups and downs of life. But when your partner is an abuser, nothing will ever be about you. Even if you’re going through the most difficult time of your life, your partner will only be concerned with how they’re affected in that situation. You’ll be made to feel like a terrible person for caring only about yourself. They’ll try to cut you off from your other loved ones so that you can focus solely on your partner’s needs.

4. Their Problems Are Your Problems

Empathy is important for any relationship and you do need to be there for your partner when they’re going through a tough time. But when all your emotions are dictated by how your partner is feeling that day, it means that your relationship is unhealthy. Even though something may have gone wrong for your partner that does not mean that you need to sit and cry over it. You can offer them peace and comfort and feel bad for them but you don’t have to make their bad mood yours. And it is not right for your partner to accuse you of not caring for them if you don’t.

5. Breaking Down Your Self-Esteem

When you are confident about the person that you are, it is hard for other people to control your life. An abusive partner won’t like it at all and they’ll do everything in their power to tear you down completely. Every time you decide to do something for yourself, they’ll be right there to make you feel guilty about not asking them beforehand. They’ll point out all sorts of non-existent flaws so that you are never certain about your decisions.

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