Find out why people fall out of love and what can you do to avoid them.
The relationship is indeed like a ship, to continue the voyage you need to put in efforts if you just take it for granted then no matter how mighty you might think your relationship is, it will sink like Titanic did.
Relationships require attention, love and nurturing. Betrayal, misunderstandings, distrust are like fatal viruses ready to attack your relationship, to prevent them you need to make your relationship immune to them which can be done with love and respect.
Falling head over heels for someone takes a minute or less and that is easy, what is difficult is staying in love, the commitment to forever be with them.
8 reasons why people fall out of love and also how to avoid it.
1. The fading attraction
Everything is temporary and so is the attraction but when it comes to love, it doesn’t really like to follow the law of nature.
In love, you can make things happen. Why would the attraction fade away? It is your inability to have fun. If you observe carefully you will realize the date nights have stopped, no more holding hands, and no more attempts to surprise each other. Is it possible that we get bored? Probably!
When you fell for your partner there were multiple reasons, multiple things that you were attracted to, it’s about time that you revisit them and realizes that love back into your life. After all it’s all about putting in the efforts, isn’t it?
2. Lack of communication
Communication is the key to a relationship and when I say key I mean the key to both the entry and exit doors. When we start a relationship there is an abundance to talk and share, in this very process we fall for the things that we can relate to.
We talk about anything and everything, opening ourselves we share our insecurities and fear, we bring down the walls there by letting the other in our life.
But as time passes the communication withers. Talks feel repetitive and you don’t want to ask or tell the same thing again. There is so much criticism, defensiveness and silent treatment already that there is no effective way to sit down and discuss the issues.
As said earlier, communication is the key to a relationship. If you feel you’re falling out love, boost the communication with your partner. If you feel there is nothing to talk about, revisit the memories and talk about how those beautiful moments made you feel.
Ask your partner about their day and tell them about yours. There are plenty of ways to keep a conversation. After all it’s all about the efforts we are ready to put in.
3. Boredom
Changes are inevitable and people do change over time. Dreams and goals change and so do feelings. There is a term ‘love lost syndrome’ which about buried desire to be someone else and this thing often sets one to boredom.
Eventually, who you really are comes out and the new change changes pretty much everything.
To avoid this you need to know your partner inside out. Changes do happen and it’s okay. Keep your partner happy and go with the flow, accept the changes. Don’t let boredom cast a veil on the love of your life.
4. Love grows cold
The flame of love that once filled you with passion grows cold with time. Making love and complementing each other becomes tales of past.
With time you start taking your partner for granted. More than lovers you start treating each other like roommates. The flame is gone, the love has grown cold.
We do need distance at times to analyze things, to appreciate the presence of our partner. When your love grows cold, revisit the flames that ignited that love and passion.
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5. Dishonesty
Secrets are venom to a relationship. Cheating, lying, or hiding things destroy relationships and bring in distrust. Hiding things like drinking habits, losing jobs, getting promotions or anything is equivalent to lying.
This diminishes the credibility of a relationship.
Communication is the key to avoid this. Be honest with your partner. They accepted you for who you were and they will accept you for whatever you are, just be honest to them and communicate if you have some issues. Being clear will save you a lot of drama and time.
6. The fairy tale is over
When you get in a relationship you believe your partner is a prince or princess, you believe to have found your soul-mate, the other half but as the honeymoon period is over and when reality hits you, you realize the fairy tales in the books are incomplete and the castle you built was a sand castle and you got to pay for every unicorn ride.
When we meet someone and fall for them, we create an idea of who they are within our minds, once the perfume of love fades away we see a different person and realize who we thought to be our other half is not actually compatible.
You need to fall in love with yourself to avoid this. With independence come a clear mind and the ability to accept the difference and also the reality.
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7. Ego
Ego I believe is the ultimate relationship killer. Every relationship reaches a point where the ego begins to dictate their behavior.
There is lack of compromises, you stop caring what your partner wants and you want what you want. Even during arguments you don’t get to a solution because none wants to compromise.
The ego takes over and the love and respect diminishes. There can never be a healthy relationship without respect.
Learn to keep ego at bay and respect your partner. Without compromise you can’t really move ahead in a relationship. The ship starts trembling and sinking.
8. Holding on to grudges
The past should be kept where it belongs. Nothing is worst than holding on to things that once hurt you. You can never have a healthy relationship if you keep bringing up the past constantly.
Maybe your partner made a mistake but let it be where it ended, if you keep bringing it up and if it keeps hurting you, your relationship will be poisoned.
Learn to let go, forgive, and forget. Keep the past behind and instead of letting the bad memories hurt you hold on to the good ones and revisit them. Love is about acceptance and respect, it’s destructive to hold on to things that cause you pain, let it go.
Keep the past behind and instead of letting the bad memories hurt you hold on to the good ones and revisit them. Love is about acceptance and respect, it’s destructive to hold on to things that cause you pain, let it go.
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