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50 Things We All Deserve In A Relationship

Things All Deserve Relationship

Not every relationship is perfect, and not every relationship leaves you with great memories. But, there are certain things you deserve to experience in a relationship, and for which you don’t have to work that hard.

I’ve been blessed in my life to have had great relationships. I’ve also had some…let’s say….less than great relationships.

It’s these not-so-good ones that have made being in love that much sweeter, and more appreciative of my husband. Sometimes in life, we can’t get a clear picture of what we want until we first experience what we don’t want.

This doesn’t mean that you need to seek perfection in a relationship. That will only leave you baffled and frustrated.

But I do believe that while in life we may need to settle for certain things, love should not be one of them.

Here are 50 things in a relationship that will have you saying “hell yes!”.

1. A number one fan.

2. Someone who constantly pushes you to be your best self.

3. Late night conversations that feel like a slumber party.

4. Mutual trust.

5. Unwavering respect.

6. Lots (and lots) of cuddles.

7. Someone who can see you at your worst without pointing it out to you.

8. Spontaneity.

9. Laughing so hard that you pee your pants a little.

10. Outside picnics just because.

11. Intense intimacy. Sex. And the knowledge that sometimes they are two different things.

12. A deep appreciation of each other.

13. Coffee and pancakes in bed on Sunday mornings.

14. Long walks.

15. Someone who will stand up for you, especially when you can’t stand up for yourself.

16. Lazy days.

17. Passionate kisses.

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18. Popcorn and movie marathons.

19. Someone who you can’t wait to see at the end of the day.

20. A hand holder.

21. A best friend.

22. Someone who knows what you like and makes it a point to get them for you.

23. Lots of little (and big) surprises.

24. Road trips.

25. A new family.

26. Luminous, loving eyes.

27. Someone who will never forget your birthday.

28. Love notes.

29. Heartfelt confessions.

30. Silly moments.

31. Freedom to be yourself.

32. Long, lingering dinners.

33. Someone who will stand up for themselves when you know you’re getting out of line.

34. Tiny heart flutters.

35. Endless hugs.

36. Venting sessions.

37. Shared goals and dreams.

38. Breaking the rules (occasionally).

39. Nights of stargazing.

40. Protection.

41. New friends.

42. Someone who will challenge you.

43. Inside jokes.

44. New adventures.

45. Comforting smiles.

46. Someone who knows what they want but isn’t afraid to be humbled.

47. Back rubs.

48. Devotion.

49. Someone who knows your worth (and their own).

50. Magic.

The small and large moments of love and intimacy that make you feel eternal because that is the best gift anyone can give us. This list is just the beginning.

Written by Alexis Meads Krilla
Originally appeared on
Harvard University MLA
Dating and Life Coach
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Alexis Meads

Alexis Meads is a Harvard educated Professional Life and Dating Coach who specializes in helping women to find love and date with intention. She has worked with hundreds of clients from around the world since 2012, coached Tony Robbins clients, and been featured on, Huffington Post, KATU News and more. Like this article? Get her FREE gift at Author posts

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