To those who say chivalry is dead or my expectations are high and unrealistic for this generation. I still hold onto hope that maybe some hopeless romantic will meet me halfway.
Because I donโt get excited over a text that they answered immediately. I donโt think much of a like on Instagram. I donโt buy into dating games and using social media as a pawn to play them.
I choose to not play games because anything real and honest and worth having takes a little more effort than the immediate gratification so many people are used to today.
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1. Holding open your door.
This is the first thing I notice about anyone.
2. Pulling out your chair.
3. Letting her order first.
Ladies first.
4. Dressing well.
The way you dress shows both respect for yourself and the person you are seeing.
5. Not eating everything on your plate.
6. Not getting too drunk.
If you have to be drunk to have fun with someone thatโs no foundation for any relationship.
7. Not looking at their phone.
When Iโm on a date I wonโt look at my phone you donโt look at yours. And if I have to Iโll apologize and explain why.
8. Making eye contact.
9. Listening and remembering what you say.
Itโs about the little details as you might be talking too much and heโs listening taking notes.
10. Not bad mouthing exes.
Itโs all about what they say about someone who might have hurt them or done them wrong. And even if they have a strong opinion on the person, they donโt share it.
11. Standing up when you leave or return from the table.
12. Walking on the outside of the sidewalk.
I know this is so unheard of.
13. Sharing their umbrella.
My roommate in college married her boyfriend and it all began because she forgot her umbrella.
14. Giving you their jacket.
Sometimes girls arenโt even cold they just want to see you do that.
15. Paying.
I donโt care how highly criticized this point might be, guys paying is form of respect. Do I walk into every date โforgetting my walletโ on purpose? No. But I look twice at the person who doesnโt let me think twice about it paying.
16. Picking you up and driving you home.
Itโs not a text of meet me here. If he wants to see you heโll come get you.
17. Meeting your parents.
Heโll want to meet your parents.
*Bonus points if he brings something to your mom.
18. Walking you to the door.
Heโll walk you to the door and not expect to be invited it.
19. Actually calling after a date.
Heโs not going to make you wait by his phone.
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20. Planning ahead. And putting thought into the dates.
Itโs letting someone take control of the situation and knowing with confidence they arenโt going to flake out or cancel.
21. Sending flowers.
*Brownie points if you send her chocolate when sheโs sick
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22. Asking you to slow dance.
Because as much as any guy might claim they donโt care about things that are happy, if it makes you smile, heโll do it.
23. Texts in the morning.
There isnโt a girl who doesnโt like waking up to a text message. Because it isnโt just a text.
24. Telling you, youโre beautiful with sincerity.
Itโs the genuine compliments you can tell in their voice is said with sincerity.
25. Looking forward to introducing you to his family.
Maybe thatโs something that scares boys but men are proud of the women they choose and they want their family to know it.
Written By Kirsten Corley
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