Relationships are like mazes with more than one exit points; everyone has their own take and there are seldom wrong answers that can’t be forgiven. People do things differently and hence they do relationships differently too. And this is primarily what causes the problems as well, incompatibility; when people’s methods clash and do not complement each other beyond a certain range, it is best if they part.
Coming back from the digression, let’s consider a particular type of person: a smart, confident and independent woman. Of course, her life-methods will be different too. She will live differently, love differently and she will function differently. As it is, they are a rare breed. A healthy self-esteem combined with the right amount of wishful pride makes a human being more socially and mentally healthy. The woman who embodies both these characteristics will be unnaturally free.
“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion,” said the great writer-philosopher Albert Camus.
The type we are discussing here; embodies this rebellion. She sticks out from the crowd like the beautiful wallflower she is, who doesn’t listen and prefers to try something new than to heed warnings. Living with regrets will not be her things but at the same time, she is going to be wise beyond her years. Consequently, to her peers, she would seem eccentric, weird even, but that won’t matter.
She knows she walks her road alone.
For all of us millennials who bask in the heat of self-hate, lack of confidence and bad life choices, it is best if we have one of them as a role model in our lives.
There is just something in the way she approaches a relationship that sets her apart from the rest.
So what does she do differently in a relationship that makes her unique as a role model? Why is she so inspiring?
Here are 15 things that she does better than you. Think of them as 15 things you should adopt in your relationships to make them bloom better.
1. She doesn’t have nonsensical notions about her own worth
She knows for a fact her place in the world. She knows what her strengths are, what her weaknesses are and what she can do to work on them. And believe me, she does work on them. Hence her personality is forever dynamic: ever changing to meet the needs of herself, her partner, her relationship, life, and the world.
2. She knows the difference between prioritizing the relationship and obsessing over it
She prioritizes the love of her life and makes sure to do everything in her power to make him/her comfortable. But at the same time, she also knows the relationship cannot and shouldn’t take up ALL her life. She also has a healthy social and works life to deal with. And she can juggle all three.
3. She knows what and when to refuse
She knows when to stop. It doesn’t matter what, but she knows when to stop and say no, thank you. She knows when to work and when to rest. Basically, she knows very well what is best for her.
4. She doesn’t just flow with the current
Like the brave salmon, she remains true to her own self and her own roots. She is not a chameleon who tries to blend in with her surroundings. Instead, she is like a butterfly who sticks out thanks to her bright colors.
5. She is expressive and articulate
She embodies the phrase “speaks her mind”. She is honest and not a conceited person by nature. She expresses herself the way it suits her peers: at work, she is succinct and articulate and not to mention ambitious, while at home, she is verbose, loving, affectionate and poetic even. In general, she is artistic in her way of life: creative and original.
6. She understands her wants
She really knows herself. She understands her best interests and her wants, be it pleasure or work. She knows her ambitions and she knows how deep her roots are. She also understands where she is welcome and she is not; hence she is never an intruder.
7. She doesn’t adjust
She doesn’t settle for anything lesser than what she is worthy of. She knows what she should be achieving in life and where she stands now. And consequently, she understands very well the gravitas of the duties she must fulfill.
8. She knows when to let go
It is a given that once in a while tepid situations are going to arise in life. A strong woman knows when to let go of things. She understands when to let go of grudges. This way she takes care of her own mental health as well. This saves her relationships a lot of trouble as well.
9. She knows when to apologise
Because she knows she is mortal too. She knows when she commits a mistake and when she must apologize. She comprehends how sometimes just an apology can light up the situation.
10. She is well aware of her pleasure needs
It’s not like she just understands her ambitions and her public sphere of life. She knows her needs from a relationship and she knows what she wants sexually.
11. She is not needy for attention
She knows she will get the attention she deserves, which is like everything else in this world.
12. She makes time for her friends
Balancing a healthy work and social life is of the essence for a better existence. She understands this very well. She also picks and chooses the friends she really needs in her life and maintains her fidelity towards them very staunchly.
13. She is self-sufficient
And does not require her partner to pick up and take care of the bills. When in a relationship she makes sure she is as much of an economic contributor as her partner. This keeps it functioning properly.
14. She trusts her partner
Enough to let him/her go have a healthy social life, like her. She also leaves her partner alone when he/she requires time alone to get work or some thinking done.
15. If she is unhappy/dissatisfied, she can quite easily move on
In other words, she makes life easy for herself and her partner when needed.
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