If you are like me and many of my clients, I am guessing that you feel like your life is falling apart right now during the Covid-19 pandemic.
Do you find that all of the coping mechanisms that you have developed over the years aren’t working? Do you feel worthless or like a failure or like you have no one who loves you? Are you questioning every decision you have ever made and are you wondering how you can ever be at peace again?
I have so many clients who are reaching out to me now, questioning everything in their lives and feeling like they are truly losing their shit. And, yes, they all have stuff they are dealing with but right now their burden feels overwhelming.
It’s been over six months since the Covid-19 pandemic started, and if you feel like your life is falling apart right now, there are many reasons for that and most of them have nothing to do with you.
Let me share with you 5 reasons why you feel like your life is falling apart in month 6 of Covid-19:
1. Life has changed completely.
Think about your life before March 2020. What did you do? Did you go out to eat, and travel, and visit your in-laws, and drop your kids off at school, and date, and have ready access to toilet paper whenever you wanted it?
Did you assume that, no matter what the state of politics in the US, you had your own happy life, one with ups and downs sure, but with friends and family and freedom?
If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you are not alone. All of us always assumed that we would have the freedom to live our lives the way we wanted and, all of a sudden, that freedom was ripped away from us.
For the first time, we couldn’t go and do what we wanted to do. Many people lost their jobs and, even if you didn’t lose yours, the unemployment numbers were staggering. Grocery store shelves were bare and any travel plans you had were cancelled.
And the government was confusing us at every turn, giving us no confidence that we knew how to get through this.
This is a HUGE thing! We have literally been thrown off balance in a way that none of us know how to cope with. We have been pushing through these last few months but now we are tired. Now we are scared. Now we wonder what is next for our family and our country.
And all of these events and emotions are overwhelming us to the point that we are doubting ourselves and our life choices and our ability to accomplish anything. This is what you are feeling.
2. There is no end in sight.
Here we are, 6 months into the nightmare that is Covid-19, and there is no end in sight.
In June, we had all hoped that the summer months would help reduce the number of deaths. The President promised us that it would all just magically disappear. Masks became the fashion statement de jour and social distancing was encouraged.
And yet, people continued to fall ill. People were told that Covid was a hoax and didn’t follow protocols that might have saved lives. Schools are re-opening and children and teachers are getting sick. And there is no vaccine in sight.
Who can blame you for feeling hopeless and helpless and out of control of your life, especially when you know your health is being threatened by non-believers. You feel like you have no control right now, over anything, so it’s really hard to feel like you have control over yourself. And that lack of control shows up as self-doubt and anxiety.
3. Winter is coming.
I know that in many parts of the US winter coming isn’t as big a deal as it is for most of us but for those of us who do deal with long, cold winters, we know, and dread, what is ahead.
Cold winters mean we all move indoors. Outdoor dining and social events are going to evaporate. Colds and flu will run rampant, creating a fear that with every sniffle or fever we, or our family, have coronavirus. It’s dark and cold and the outside experiences that got us through these last few months are going to be few and far between.
And who knows what is going to happen over the holidays – often the only bright spot before the long days of January, days when we see family and visit warm places. Just the thought of it makes me sad.
Even in the best of times, winter’s approach can be daunting. Right now, as we all struggle with this ongoing pandemic, it seems almost unbearable.