Understanding the Confident/Nervous Guy

So letโ€™s say there is a guy you are attracted to whom you see all the time. When you see him, heโ€™s always out with his friends, laughing and just having a great time with his buddies. Every time you try to talk to him, though, he gets all nervous.
Youโ€™ve got to understand something about this guy. You think this guy is so cool, calm, collected and confident. The truth is that if heโ€™s nervous around you, then heโ€™s interested in you.

Just look at his personality. Thatโ€™s something that I always tell women.

A lot of times when a woman is attracted to a guy and he acts like this, i.e., confident and friendly with his friends but nervous around her, she interprets this seemingly stark change in his behavior as an indication that โ€œThis guy isnโ€™t interested in me.โ€ She will interpret his nervousness as deliberate unfriendliness toward her.

In reality, this guy IS interested in you precisely because he is not acting like himself . Watch what this guy does and think about it for a second.

The minute he stops talking to you, he goes back to talking to his friends and he immediately becomes the confident guy again. Then you see him talking to a woman to whom heโ€™s not attracted, and he becomes that confident guy again. When heโ€™s talking to the waitress, heโ€™s the confident guy.

The minute he starts talking to you, however, he seems to get really nervous. His hands go in his pockets. He might rock back and forth a little bit.

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So what do you do in this situation? Youโ€™ve got to bring it out of him a little bit more.

For one thing, you can always ask him โ€œDo I make you nervous?โ€ You can confront him right away if you feel like taking the direct approach.

You can also just be really calming and ask him questions about things. When youโ€™re in a conversation with him, maybe go a little deeper and start asking him more questions about what heโ€™s saying. Get him to relax a little bit. You could laugh at one of his jokes.

The fact is that life is about energy, and whatever energy someone brings into a dynamic can affect the energy of the others. So when this guy is nervous, you become nervous and then the two of you will become nervous together.

So if you like this guy or you think you might like this guy, it may be up to you to bring a calming energy into your conversation to draw out his calmer side. Life is a two-way street ladies. It really is.

Once again, too many women sit back and wait for that guy to come over to them. They wait for that guy to be George Clooney or Brad Pitt. Sometimes the reality is that youโ€™ve just got to pull it out of them. Itโ€™s just the way things are.

You need to embrace that you are in control of your dating life, and Iโ€™m here to help you.


Written by David Wygant
Originally appeared on DavidWygnant.com

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